Conflicting thoughts about sex

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#1 Sep 12 - 4AM
letting go
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Conflicting thoughts about sex

A male friend of mine moved to another city late last year and wants to visit me now. He has told me how he is in love with me and asked me to stay in a hotel with him for one night when he visits since I said he isn't able to stay at my place. I have known him a year now.

I don't trust him. It isn't really that I think he is bad or will mistreat me but I don't trust any man right now and really don't want any man near me, not even to touch or kiss me.

The thing is, he is quite attractive and young, my age, I have only ever been with a 39 year old man (who I loved being with and holding but that it was quick). Sometimes I imagine how it might be nice so it's hard to understand how most of the time I feel repulsed by any man being close to me right now.

I'm concerned that when he does visit he will get me to give in if I am in one of those moods where I feel more attracted to him or men in general than repulsed.

I guess that's a normal thing to feel?

I've talked to my psychologist about this and I know what it would take to want to be with a man again is trust and I'm not ready for that. I just don't want to do something I will feel upset about later, I have to be honest with this friend about how I don't trust him right now.

Sep 12 - 1PM
GracefullyFree
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LG, I'd love to be....

Sep 12 - 10AM
Journey
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Why does this have to be

Journey on...

Sep 12 - 10AM
TruthbeginsToday
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WOW!

Sep 12 - 8AM
round3
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LG - - - a F*ck is a F*ck is a F*ck...

Sep 12 - 8AM
IncognitoBurrito
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Look

Sep 12 - 7AM
Darlene
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Cynical....that's me as I

Sep 12 - 8AM (Reply to #42)
Darlene
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Can YOU say, I'm worth more

Sep 12 - 7AM
Goldie
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What are you saying?

Sep 12 - 4PM (Reply to #35)
letting go
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We met one night at a mutual

Sep 13 - 6AM (Reply to #36)
Goldie
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SEX IS NOT LOVE

Sep 13 - 9AM (Reply to #37)
letting go
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Though he is beautiful I

Sep 13 - 9AM (Reply to #38)
Alissa
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You might want to read this

Sep 14 - 12AM (Reply to #39)
letting go
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Thanks. I loved my ex so

Sep 14 - 8AM (Reply to #40)
Alissa
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Very good, letting go! Don't

Sep 12 - 7AM
kollontai77
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.

Sep 12 - 8AM (Reply to #33)
IncognitoBurrito
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If I

Sep 12 - 7AM (Reply to #30)
talktothehand
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Paying for it

Sep 12 - 4PM (Reply to #31)
letting go
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He has chased me for a year,

Sep 12 - 4PM (Reply to #32)
GracefullyFree
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Chasing

Sep 12 - 5AM
talktothehand
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Try telling him

Sep 12 - 4AM
Deidre99
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You're not even dating him.

Sep 12 - 8AM (Reply to #27)
IncognitoBurrito
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Damn straight!

Sep 12 - 5AM (Reply to #18)
letting go
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That's true. I should raise

Sep 12 - 8AM (Reply to #24)
IncognitoBurrito
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It's not about

Sep 12 - 4PM (Reply to #25)
letting go
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I hadn't thought of that in

Sep 13 - 7AM (Reply to #26)
IncognitoBurrito
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I hear

Sep 12 - 5AM (Reply to #19)
Deidre99
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It doesn't matter what he

Sep 12 - 5AM (Reply to #20)
letting go
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How do I be firm with them

Sep 12 - 6AM (Reply to #22)
Deidre99
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Just say no. If this man gets

Sep 12 - 8AM (Reply to #23)
IncognitoBurrito
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NO MAN