Is this common among Narcissists?

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#1 Sep 12 - 12AM
Anonymous (not verified)
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Is this common among Narcissists?

Do they go from job to job? Do they move alot? I have never known someone who had so many jobs and so many addresses as my ex N! Oh yeah, and everything get repo-d! He is 34 years old and does not have a pot to piss in or a window to throw it out of! No matter how much money he makes, it's never ever enough! He's always living off of next week's check.

Sep 12 - 12PM
me_at_last (not verified)
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Ex N could not stay with

Ex N could not stay with ANYTHING for very long. When I met him he was living with his brother though he claimed to have soo much money. He bragged about owning over 30 vehicles in his life. He couldn't even keep the same vehicle - and still can't. He can't stay in one home or one town for very long. He complains that he hates our hometown so he moves away, then comes back (much to my dismay!). He has only worked one actual job in the 13 years I've known him and that was for a short period of time. He works for himself at various things and does none of those very well or very honestly from what I've seen and heard. They are a train wreck!
Sep 12 - 1PM (Reply to #8)
GhostBuster
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Stingy and meticulous

N #1 made plenty of money was soooooo cheap. We'd go to happy hour and once, our usual place raised the cost of a beer by a quarter. He demanded to know why it had gone up 25 cents and made a huge scene. He had trouble keeping jobs and also trouble focusing on his work (which is why he probably lost jobs or failed at them). He just wanted to play and get paid for it. He wasn't stingy with himself though. If he wanted a new boat, he just went and bought one. This is the same idiot who gave me a can of Folgers our first christmas together (along with a sweat suit). N #2 was not outwardly cheap. In fact, seemed very generous. And he didn't like it if I wanted to pay. At first. And he saved a lot, so he had much more than I did. He was meticulous about his money...had everything on a spreadsheet and wouldn't even use a debit card at the gas station pump...paranoid his identity would be stolen. BUT...he never stayed at a job more than a couple years and he was always looking for the next job. And always taking classes or thinking about advancing his education. He looked down on me because I didn't do the same. I think he was easily bored. He's lived a lot of places in his life...again, boredom. I used to call him Mr. Nomad.
Sep 12 - 1PM (Reply to #7)
Fawn
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Can't Be Normal

Ex-N also constantly quit jobs and took new ones, wanted to move, constantly looking for houses, going back to school. This went on for YEARS! He has moved 6 times in the past 18 months alone! He is now living in a crappy 2-bedroom apartment that is a block away from our old house. I think that he is always trying to recreate his college years when he rode a bicycle everywhere, had no responsibilities, and bought one bag of groceries. He is such a weirdo. Ooops, I forgot that I'm 42 years old and have 3 kids. He went running away screaming from his grown-up life because he couldn't handle it. This is how he chooses to live, and he can't understand why everyone thinks he is such a loser, including his kids. I'm so glad that I'm not married to him anymore. He is the laughingstock of the small town we live in. I went along with all the moving around and job changes because I loved him and wanted to be a supportive wife. He didn't care one bit about what I wanted or about the kids and uprooting them all the time. This is not how a real man acts!!! I didn't realize that then. He was always telling me how I didn't "BELIEVE" in him. I blame his parents for a lot of his problems because his mom told him once when he was spouting off about something that she thought he was "A Prophet", Whatever. He is an idiot.
Sep 12 - 1AM
Rose-Marie (not verified)
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Money

N2 stuck in the same job. Has made a lot of money through inheritances etc. and took great delight in showing me his bank balance. Apart from at the beginning when I was being reeled in he did not want to spend much on me and was happy for me to spend mine. You would think he had won the lottery whenever I paid for anything (meals out etc). He would make promises to fund things but the promise never materialised and I always ended up spending more than him, even though he had much more than me. I did not think much about this at the time, but I do now. Are some Ns weird with money even when they have more than enough. I think if I had stayed with him I would have been wiped-out moneywise by now and he would still have been expecting me to pay up. One reason I am glad to be out. Rosy
Sep 12 - 1AM
James (not verified)
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Past performance is always a good indicator of future behavior

Any type of instability and dysfunctional behavior in a person’s life would be a key factor in how they live their lives. Most sociopathic people always leave behind them a trail of tears and broken promises. Heavy Debts and many job losses. Most if they do marry have numerous marriages and relationships outside of the marriage. All these are red flags and should be mentally noted whenever someone meets a new person in their life. But because of our current economical crisis you will see this happening with normal healthy people as well. So one should be careful to judge if their past is caused by them and not what many of us are now seeing with the housing crisis and high unemployment rate in this country. One web site I encourage people to visit is Gerald Celente blog. This current economical crisis in this country is another reason I encourage people to separate themselves from these parasitic abusers who will only add to our problems. Also it’s my theory because of this current economical situation these parasitic people are even more desperate and seeking new victims. http://geraldcelentechannel.blogspot.com/
Sep 12 - 12AM
Barbara (not verified)
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yes

these are ALL things you need to have black & white PROOF of to show your lawyer to make CHILD SUPPORT iron-clad and SUPERVISED VISITATION with you have SOLE CUSTODY a MUST. Tell them THIS IS WHAT YOU WANT. Don't wait for them to figure it out. It's YOUR dime. Lawyers are CLUELESS about Narcissists and you MUST DIRECT THE SHOW! MUST! He's very unstable - that's proveable if you can get the documentation. AND NO GFs AROUND YOUR CHILD - EVER!!!! Yes, they either plop themselves into a job and stay there forever and whinge & complain every day or they can't seem to keep a job and are constantly getting fired, downsized or let go. They are either AWFUL with money or very stingy. EVERYTHING is one extreme or the other with these animals. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ CLICK HERE: Articles & information for Narc Victims - Updated Daily "As soon as you feel that crazy sense of walking on eggshells, fending off N-rage, stop. Walk away." - Dr. M. Beck
Sep 12 - 12AM (Reply to #2)
NanC (not verified)
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How do I go about getting

How do I go about getting proof of different jobs and addresses? The jerk hasn't filed his income tax in years, if ever! I think I can get proof of some of his job changes because Attorney General's office can show all the different places they have sent out for garnishes. See, he's a welder and they are famous for going from job to job when the jobs finish. (of course, his didn't all finish, he quits before it finishes). Also, I tried to rush order that book "splitting". They do not rush order, it won't be in for 7-8 days. I go to court next Friday and it will be too late. Regarding splurging, my x N would go to WalMart and buy tons of cd's on payday and come Monday, he didn't even have gas money! One time, he asked me to wire him some money while he was working out of town. I later found out it was because he needed gas money to go see his girlfriend that lived 2 hrs away from where he was working. Me and the kids were 2 1/2 hrs away but couldn't come our direction because of work...
Sep 12 - 1AM (Reply to #3)
Barbara (not verified)
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NanC

1. TELL your attorney you need to postpone the court date, make up some family reason 2. Your attorney needs to help you get all this documentation. They should have asked for it a LONG time ago before even getting a SUPPORT order. This goes right to your needing SOLE CUSTODY and you need to tell them to get this stuff ASAP - DO NOT BACK DOWN OR LET THEM TALK YOU OUT OF IT!! ~~~~~~~~~~~~ CLICK HERE: Articles & information for Narc Victims - Updated Daily "As soon as you feel that crazy sense of walking on eggshells, fending off N-rage, stop. Walk away." - Dr. M. Beck