Christmas Party Plans at Nightclub, No SignificantOthers until after 10pm?
Christmas Party Plans at Nightclub, No SignificantOthers until after 10pm?
Being the wife or GF of a Narcissist (predator, liar, cheater) is difficult enough, so why do Company single teeney bopping 'Event Planners' set the stage (in a venue that's mre conducive to hooking up, drinking, flirting, and a sexually charged atmosphere)...and plan the party at the most expensive Nightclub/hotel...the most popular 'hot spot' in the big City? Does this sound like the proper venue for a 'Christmas Party?...on a Saturday Night?... is it supposed to be 'trendy' now for a Company to throw a Christmas Party at the hottest Nightclub in the city?...and the invitation specifically stating 'Employees only! Significant Others may join in after 10pm when the Nightclub opens to the public! ??? (I find that SO undignified...treating a wife or significant other of the employee like that! What a slap...they are saying to the wives/husbands...and SO's "you are not allowed to come to our party...on a non work evening (Sat. Night)...at this exclusive/trendy/hot/sexually charged special occaision...for OUR Christmas Party...where we 'co-workers' (who already spend most of our day with each other...and already have monthly lunches out, dinners, events, Beach Parties, picnics, etc....during the year to which you 'not so significant others' are not invited)...WE are not going to invite you to 'our Christmas Party either!!!
Am I being ridiculous?...This sort of thing makes me just fume!!!
Already the Christmas Party is planned and the invitations sent out yesterday...months in advance. Isn't Christmas a family time...if the Company is supposedly on a tight budget..(it's one of the largest most solvent corporations in the world BTW)...then why not hold the Christmas Party at a fine restaurant, and offer that the employee can invite their wife/husband or SO...and pay for their 'ticket' or plate? Any other time...but CHRISTMAS!!!
Statistically, the workplace is the environment where people cheat the most...with co-workers. I know MY 'Office Romeo' has cheated with more than one co-worker (I did NOT know at the time)...so why are these stupid airhead 25-30 y/o 'event planners' for the company ALLOWED to plan THIS type of event for the Christmas Party?
Even if it was held at this 'hot' nightclub...AND SO's were invited...I still think it would be setting the stage for trouble...but at least it would be slightly better than making a statement on the invitations that SO's were 'NOT ALLOWED'...oh! and get this! the invitations state that the 'proper attire for the event/evening is 'Nightclub Chic!'(just great! So the men dress up for a 'date night' in their best sexy 'on the make' outfits and the girls dress in their finest classy 'porn star' look, with very low cut, tight dresses, short skirts and high heels and sexy perfumes and they all get to drink, dance and get all sexed up! Really takes the meaning out of Christmas...completely!
My Narcissist does so much porn (again I never knew for over a year into the relationship about all his extracuricular activities, or about the OW, lying & cheating)He lies, is a serial cheater...he has always been seeking new and constant sources of validation/admiration/ attention...sex...Something like this party is exactly his style! I am sure he is not the only one like this either.
I cannot believe it isn't against company policy to put on this type of 'event'. If they held the party at the office after hours on a work day'...well okay...go ahead and make it employees only...or why can't they plan a Christmas Party on company time then, or at a more approprite place???...But on a Saturday, in that kind of atmosphere???...and at a public extrememly 'chic' nightclub??? Am I wrong to be upset aout this? My narcissist 'Prince Charming' sent me a copy of the invitation yesterday...as soon as he got it...as if he is 'gloating' about it...I seldom get angry...but this one made me 'burst into flames!
Would it be wrong to anonymously contact one of the top CEO's of the company via an anonymous email (I have his) with a copy of the invitation and a comment about how inappropriate this venue appears to be for a Corporate Christmas Party...without SO's invited...and suggest they include So's if the employee covers their ticket???. (this CEO is a Famly man type himself, and I am sure not the type to even attend such an 'event'...let alone think it is appropriate for a Chraitmas Party for co-workers)..The head offices are in another Province and City...and their top managers may not know the types of things this small branch office does (alot!)...What now? My narcissist's office might as well be called the 'New Bachelor Pad'...it is getting about as bad as that!!! (you can't believe how the women are allowed to dress!) I never saw such tight revealing low cut/short clothing, except on a street corner in a certain part of town!...Even my Narc BF has complained about it...the way the women dress...that it is a distraction from work and makes it hard for the guys to 'get things done'.
...I woke up this morning and I am still burning! It's over 3 months away...and yet I feel that Christmastime is already tainted. I am really upset about this! Maybe it is because Christmas was when I caught my BF cheating 2 years ago...and he is very hurtful at Christmas to me (each year for some unknown reason)...or maybe it is because I saw that he had a piece of paper he had taken out of his pocket with a list of *things to do* the day before the invites went out...and #1 on the list said 'book Christmas' (which he said was book some time off at Christmas...which is weird as he NEVER takes time off then)...and when I asked him about it he said 'NO, I did NOT suggest the nightclub as a great place for the Christmas Party...and NO, 'book Christmas' was not about the Christmas Party (but he was grinning this sick grin ear to ear when he said this). (weird he had this on his list the day before) especially so early...months before Christmas! Somehow I KNOW he is lying. I honestly think he suggested this venue...and also that SO's arenot allowed...and he may well have even booked it for the company...wouldn't be surprised a bit! He LIES every other word out of his mouth...and this IS his style!...and WHY is he just enjoying this all too much? (my being upset about this whole stupid thing)
Perhaps the reason I am so fuming is that he HAS sat on Event Planning Committees before...and he LOVES this particular hotel and NightClub and used to frequent it. He also made sure to rub it in that wives and GF's were NOT allowed...until after 10pm when the 'public' could join in. He loved seeing me fume! He even tried to have sex with me last night...(tried at least 3 times to intitiate sex very blatantly!)...WTF! My being upset about this made him laugh and want to have sex???...I burst into flames and he tries to 'jump on me'...he barely holds my hand anymore...and we have been in another D&D cycle (we live together for over 3 years now)and I am stuck as I sublet my apartment downtown until January...and have no place to stay if I leave him again...until then.
I am such an idiot! What have I done to myself and my life...even BEING with this pathological man!? I KNOW what he is now! How is he STILL able to get me to go back to him and be in this relationship??? He is making me nuts! How could I have wasted SO much time with this fool and loser...allow myself to get 'charmed' back in to the relationship with someone who has lied, cheated (repeatedly)Who's always on the make, who becomes enraged at the drop of a hat, has been in trouble with law enforcement for his 'temper' and violent rages...and manipulates, criticizes, puts down...verball, emotionally abuses...all with charm, finesse and a big smile that lights up a room...
He looks like a dream, acts like a dream...talks and walks like a dream...until the real 'him' was revealed...and I have been on a roller coaster of a nightmare ever since...my whole life seems to be heading 'off the rails' with him in the driver's seat.
Sorry, woke up still in flames...needed to rant and vent.
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