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Christian Marriage/ Divorce Story - EMOTIONAL ABUSE

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#1 Oct 10 - 10PM
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Christian Marriage/ Divorce Story - EMOTIONAL ABUSE

From:http://askme7.com/domestic-violence/emotional-abuse-story/

I can speak from personal experience in saying that there is one other that is just as bad, if not worse, than domestic violence to ruin a marriage – and that is emotional abuse.

It is more often than not so hidden from the public eye that when you even try to allude to it your are looked at with quizzical stares and questioning glances.

Even your Christian friends, the leadership in the church, do not believe you.

The abuser happens to be extremely good-natured, is often the pastor’s right-hand man, gives generously of his time and talents to those in the church needing assistance and therefore hides behind this type of covering.

Meanwhile, at home he is belittling you, humiliating you in public, cross-examining you for certain actions, writing down the odometer reading when

You leave to shop or run errands and checking it when you return home, telling you constantly how stupid you are and I could go on and on.

Yes, I know how God feels about divorce. That’s why it took me so long to take that final step.

After 35 yrs., I finally left and, because I was so fearful and intimidated, the Lord led me out of the marriage. Had he not shown me the steps to take, I would not, on my own, known how to get out and stay out.

All of the kids wondered why it took me so long to do it. My life is very different now and everything that I turned my back on when I walked away has been restored to me.

Anyway, I wanted to remind you that as bad as domestic violence is, please do not forget the other – emotional abuse! It is just as damaging!!

Thank you.

Oct 11 - 8AM
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The exNhusband in my life

The exNhusband in my life "became" a christian in order to marry me. It was like a club to him. No more, no less. A club he wanted to be a member of. Nothing in his behavior showed itself to be christian-like. How do you get attention outside the marrige vows and dont give a rats ass about how your behavior is causing your wife pain and still say you are a christian? Mine even lied to the pastor who married us. Emotional abuse goes deep. It is real and damaging to the soul. Thats why domestic violence shelters take in women of emotional abuse. The exN always had a mask of treating me TOO good! Oh yes! He was very very good at his manipulations. It was too good to be true. I always felt in my gut he was a phony. Yet, he couldnt control himself with other women and attention anywhere and any way he could get it. It only took 3 days after the wedding for him to be unfaithful, as I've mentioned to you all before. 3DAYS! In the end he abandoned me and left me penniless. I see it now as a gift from God. He's far away from my life now. Thank God.