Can't believe I'm back

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#1 Nov 12 - 3AM
Butterf1y
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Can't believe I'm back

I had been with a narc for a year and then changed my phone number and went complete NC for two months. I was feeling great and having fun again.

In that time the narc would make up numerous email addresses to contact me through. I would delete then block straight away. I then met a lovely policeman and told him about narc to get some advice. He said to keep up NC and not to respond to anything but keep everything for evidence if I needed it in the future.

Narc didn't give up and the policeman started to become protective of me saying he could make a phone call to narc and that maybe I should think about a restraining order, also mentioning that he could be sent to jail for what he is doing. I didn't want to upset narc by doing that fearing the repercussions but at the same time, I was getting frustrated by the constant attempts to make contact.

I did the unthinkable and called narc, on a blocked number, to tell him that what he was doing was an offense and he could go to jail and that I knew a policeman who is encouraging me to go through with it. He sounded so relieved and happy to hear from me. I felt so bad for even considering to get a restraining order on him. I allowed him to contact me on his most recently made up email address just so I could gauge his next move. Friends of his then started emailing me to tell me how much he loves me, adores me and misses me, and his birthday is coming up! The same thought crept into my mind of "maybe he isn't a narcissist?" I seem to be the only one that thinks he is....me and his ex girlfriend....who he still goes back to.

So, as you may have guessed, I met up with him. He then told me he has a new phone number so that none of his ex girlfriends or any of his past could contact him. He gave me his facebook password and his email password saying he has nothing to hide and said that he will always have his phone in full view. I felt bad that he did all this for me so I gave him my new number out of guilt. Big mistake right!

We started spending some time together and the cracks started to appear. He would get angry at me for no reason, claiming he was upset because I had left him for so long. He parked illegally another time and got a parking fine and exploded with anger at me and a woman trying to park in front of his car. I defended the woman and he told me to get my shit and f**k off! Then, out of the blue, he booked a very expensive cruise for us, my name was on it and he gave me the receipt (to show everyone). I felt so guilty and trapped now. how could I possibly think he was a narcissist with such a generous gesture. No man has EVER done anything so extravagant for me. We hadn't really been intimate, only hand holding and some kissing. I just felt uncomfortable, I knew it was all a mistake and he didn't push it either.

We had plenty of niggly fights and then one night I went over to his place after work and he had been drinking. He was ranting and raving about how awesome he is and then went crazy at me because I "had a sour look on my face!" Once again, he told me to get my shit and f**k off! So I did and I haven't seen him in at least two weeks. Of course he has swing from abusing me, to begging me to come back to threatening to bad mouth me to everyone I know.

My question is....do they EVER go away? Do I have to change my number AGAIN? I don't want to as I am waiting to hear back from a job I applied for. Could I have provoked his anger? Will I have to get the police involved if he doesn't stop?

I just want to hear opinions on this because, believe it or not, I am STILL trying to tell myself he may not be a narcissist and I may be overreacting.

Nov 13 - 4PM
brinamarie
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I went on a cruise around 9

Nov 14 - 4PM (Reply to #43)
Butterf1y
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I was worried about being

Nov 15 - 4AM (Reply to #44)
onwithmylife
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butterfly

Nov 15 - 2PM (Reply to #45)
Butterf1y
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No, not funny at all and I

Nov 17 - 1AM (Reply to #46)
Ruby
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That is something that I

Nov 17 - 2AM (Reply to #47)
Butterf1y
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Yes! They will not let

Nov 12 - 6PM
Butterf1y
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Thank you everyone for your

Nov 16 - 9AM (Reply to #38)
Tori
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Lack of sex

Nov 17 - 2AM (Reply to #39)
Butterf1y
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Tori this sounds EXACTLY like

Nov 17 - 4AM (Reply to #40)
Tori
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All the same!

Nov 19 - 11PM (Reply to #41)
Butterf1y
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So many times I read

Nov 13 - 6AM (Reply to #36)
IncognitoBurrito
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I stopped there.

Nov 14 - 4PM (Reply to #37)
Butterf1y
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Does this sound like the

Nov 13 - 6AM (Reply to #26)
Deidre99
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i have a vision of him

Nov 14 - 4PM (Reply to #27)
Butterf1y
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Yes that is exactly what

Nov 17 - 3AM (Reply to #34)
Mina
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Don't feel guilty

Nov 17 - 3AM (Reply to #35)
Butterf1y
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Oh wow! Yeah who knows with

Nov 15 - 5AM (Reply to #28)
talktothehand
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The SS Narc

Nov 16 - 8AM (Reply to #29)
shock and awe.some
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SS Narc...too funny!

Nov 17 - 1AM (Reply to #30)
talktothehand
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S & A

Nov 17 - 2AM (Reply to #31)
Butterf1y
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You got the catalogue too? He

Nov 17 - 3AM (Reply to #32)
talktothehand
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Butterf1y

Nov 19 - 11PM (Reply to #33)
Butterf1y
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Ahhhh, that makes sense! I am

Nov 12 - 4PM
janemarie
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I had to change my number 4

Nov 12 - 5PM (Reply to #22)
Butterf1y
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Really? Four times? This will

Nov 12 - 5PM (Reply to #23)
janemarie
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My family and friends.....

Nov 12 - 6PM (Reply to #24)
Butterf1y
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That sounds like my family

Nov 12 - 11AM
Journey
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You are still trying to tell

Journey on...

Nov 12 - 5PM (Reply to #16)
Butterf1y
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Oh....wow....a healthy person

Nov 13 - 12AM (Reply to #17)
Journey
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Yes, when they don't know if

Journey on...