can you guys tell me what you think about my behaviour?

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Sep 26 - 2PM (Reply to #37)
better off
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Is he Mel Gibson?

Is he Mel Gibson?
Sep 25 - 2PM (Reply to #26)
Briseis
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No, he doesn't care :(

No, he doesn't care :( Undoubtedly he doesn't think he did anything wrong TO CARE about. But he's the only one who thinks that way. He'd be in jail for assault and battery if the cops knew what he did. He didn't make you into a bitch. YOU responded with strength and self protection. If that is being a bitch in your mind, you should question some of those beliefs you have deep down in there. We must protect ourselves in this life. It's normal to do so.
Sep 25 - 4PM (Reply to #27)
kiwi10
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yeah... it's not like i

yeah... it's not like i don;t have the right to be there just because his perverted ass rents a room out there,
Sep 25 - 7AM
gettinbetter
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Hi Fierflie!

Awesome job. You sound like you are doing better!:)
Sep 25 - 7AM
gettinbetter
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Hi Fierflie!

Awesome job. You sound like you are doing better!:)
Sep 25 - 7AM
Scoop
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oooh i think you handled it

oooh i think you handled it very well , it reminds me when i went to a street party and my late narc was there , i was with my close girlfriend who just said walk on by and not say a word which we did , he hovered around for a little while and i could tell it had upset him as he knows my friend well too but then he was gone .. yesss ! he knew he want getting any supply from me ... well done you xx
Sep 25 - 6AM
Used
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fierflie

i think your behavior was brilliant... him leaving proves that...PLEASE GO TO THE TOP OF THE CLASS>>> FOR YOUR GOLDSTAR..
Sep 25 - 11AM (Reply to #12)
kiwi10
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used

what do you mean his leaving proves that? just curious..
Sep 25 - 12PM (Reply to #13)
Used
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fierflie

well i can only go by what my exh and narc, but if i was somewhere the n was, but i was looking like i was ok, he would leave, but if i was somewhere and didnt look like i was ok he would stay, wheare as whatever state of mind he was in iwould stay regardless of him. an example from him, when we used to fall out,and he would still be around, he told me if i was smilimg, "yes smiling" with any one, male or female.. his day was ruined, if he saw me alone and i looked fed up, he would make sure i saw him and smirk..... but on a realy bad time for him with me he would avoid, shops, times[i am a bit of a routine person so he knew}any where i might be or go,cos he said at those times he couldnt cope with seeing me at all.... no i dont get it either.tho saying that a few weeks ago he tried to join a club i have always gone to.. they wouldnt let him... i think that was cos, i always went back if he pursued it long enough.... this time i havent.. 11 1/2 mnths nc.... i didnt know he cared LOL.
Sep 25 - 4PM (Reply to #19)
no more
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You go Girl

I went to a music fest last weekend and originally he was there alone,,, tried to get me to go with him to the events but to no avail and am I happy about that ,,,,didn't take a bite on his trying to be nice. But Sat afternoon he picked up someone and then SAt night a different one again,,,but he spent the night with her because I saw them leave in the morn,,and he would not even look at me,,,, nor did he attend any more of the fest,,,,, is that what we call shame and guilt???? Plus girls do we really want to jeopardize our own sexual health and well being,,,,not me!!!! But he is back with the OW now so I guess there was no new NS at the moment,,,,and you know what I do not give a flying F so he better not think he can go back and forth between the 2 of us any more,,,,,,, let her have at him. And I do not have any intentions to let her know what he has said about her,,,let her figure it out. Please girls remind me when I come to this site to not go there ever again with that nasty, evil, cruel,sadistic BASTARD!!!!!

I just got involved with the same N for the second time.
What was I thinking? Because I have put myself back to the same point where I am blaming myself again. And for what?
I want to get rid of these feelings again.

Sep 25 - 12PM (Reply to #14)
kiwi10
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used...

you went back after your divorce? i dont think my x gives a flying fuck if i'm happy. i just think it irritated him that i was there and he couldn't have a good time. it's actually really lame that he left, IMO. it was a way to be a victim i guess.
Sep 25 - 12PM (Reply to #15)
Used
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fierflie

no... ididnt go back after divorce, but we were still friends, i was talking about the narc,s behavior,,, i dumped them both last year... but there behavior is excactly the same as each other... what i said to you in other posts i ment myexh and narc..... its more prevalant with narc, cos one he lives near me, and 2 myexh doesnt...spooky tho... someone phonedme and had talked to exh, and she said its great you still see each at your kids... i said i havent talked or aknowledge him for a year.. she said i only saw him in the week i asked how were you, and he said she,s good we met up at our eldest kids last week..... we didnt, she said what? is he nuts, i said yes... when me and him split up. i found out for 5 years he was telling people he was working away.. wtf. i might just start calling them the terrible twosome... both narcs, both liars, both delusional, both got me, both lost me..... they have got so much in common they should get married... haha!!!!!
Sep 25 - 12PM (Reply to #16)
kiwi10
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i'm confused, used...

youre still friends with your ex narc, but you dont talk?
Sep 25 - 12PM (Reply to #17)
Used
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fierflie

right,, here goes, i divorced my husband 14years ago, but he wanted to remain freinds up until last year i was ok with that to a degree, then last year i changed my locks[he still had a key and stopped having anything to do with him... he still on xmas and birthday put cards and money thru door. i still ignore him, if you want to read my story its about me and him...... 6years ago i met narc, he is the one who i went backwards and forward with.... a week after i changed my locks. i dumped narc for good... him and my exh are like doubles.... coming here i relized they were both narcs and thats when i got away from both of them.. i orignally was here about the narc but everything i read i kept thinking thats myexh, so i guess thats when it got confusing... i dont think anything of my exh but the narc is still in my head from time to time... he lives near me ..my exh lives away from me...
Sep 25 - 12PM (Reply to #18)
kiwi10
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ok used

i understand now, thank you for clarifying
Sep 25 - 6AM
fedup
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I Think

it's great that he saw you being strong--immune to his charms, not locked away pining over him---but rather , out with your friends enjoying life........ this story is a great example of "the best revenge is living well...." Basically, it sounds to me ,like you demonstrated that you weren't defeated by him.......good for you!
Sep 25 - 2AM
kiwi10
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i promise i'm more

i promise i'm more intelligent than my spelling makes me out to be :)
Sep 25 - 4AM (Reply to #2)
michele115 (not verified)
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Fierflie....

You did great kiddo! Glad you got your pound of flesh...well, as close to a pound as you're gonna get. All the best... What a chump....humph
Sep 25 - 11AM (Reply to #7)
kiwi10
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hey michelle

did he leave because i cock blocked him or what??
Sep 25 - 3PM (Reply to #8)
MovinOnUp
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I think how you handled this

I think how you handled this was awesome, Fierflie "Well look who's here." ain't even close to being bitchy or mean, so please don't give that another thought. This guy should be in jail for what he did to you. He may be a narc, but he's also a lawyer and he knows exactly what the penalty is for the crime he committed. He may have you temporarily hog tied from going to the police about what he's done... but he can't stop you from telling your friends, or reminding your friends. And drinking has a way of loosening lips. He may act cool as a cucumber, but I'll bet deep down he fears exposure and last night he had no control over the situation. You hold every card in the deck and you tell your story to the wrong(right) person... he could wind up hurt. Put him at the same place with a date, even if your friends are there he has little fear of being exposed. Just my take on why he might have left. Again, I think you handled the situation brilliantly.
Sep 25 - 4PM (Reply to #9)
kiwi10
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movinonup

thank you so much for your response! so you think he took a date last time to protect himself? or did i missunderstand you? it's annoying, he swtches between being mean and demanding and calling and leaving me really fake sweet voicemails... well, sweet for him. not sweet enough for me. i thought him leaving waw weird and over the top and rude, and it made me feel weird, like i had said something wrong, so thank you for saying i didn't. i would be the guys friend if he were even sorry.... truly sorry... but, the money he gives me isn;t out of remorse, it's out of fear. he aint sorry at all.... sucks :(
Sep 25 - 7AM (Reply to #3)
Alive
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You are

one classy lady...you go for it :)
Sep 25 - 3PM (Reply to #4)
desprathousewife
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I think you're MINT, as my

I think you're MINT, as my teenage daughter would say :)
Sep 25 - 4PM (Reply to #5)
kiwi10
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desperatehousewife

ok.. well i'm 30 now, what does that mean?
Sep 25 - 4PM (Reply to #6)
no more
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55 myself

what does that mean? LOL,,, too old to find another mate????LOL,, don't need to find another N,,,, EVER!!!!

I just got involved with the same N for the second time.
What was I thinking? Because I have put myself back to the same point where I am blaming myself again. And for what?
I want to get rid of these feelings again.