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Can you get a restriction order against an N parent?

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#1 Feb 24 - 11AM
greengirl91
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Can you get a restriction order against an N parent?

I found a threathening note in my door today, sounding like "I KNOW what you do, I KNOW that you don`t do this and that"

From mommie dearest of course. I am being harrassed. I have been NC with this person for 2 months and so right now. I don`t ask for anything, I detached emotionally, and last time we had a huge scandal, in which I said and expressed (as if a Narc "gets" that) that my life is my life, my boundaries are my boundaries, and I have the right to CHOOSE as a human being, what people I keep in my life.

Of course, it must have been incredibly boring without having her "punching bag" her "puppet". Guys, please help.

If I go to the police, would anyone take my story seriously? I mean, who would believe me, a child, against a "loving" mother? But I am willing to try anything eitherway. Even a protection order, anything would do.

I haven`t asked her for money, I have been NC!!! Why is so hard to just leave me the fuck alone?

I ignored all her messages, and had an intention to send a swearing message one, but I know that is what she wants. CONTACT. BEATINGS. SWEARING. CHAOS. MIND GAMES. TORTURE.

I kept silent, and came here. It`s funny how the other day I was talking about anger, lol! I suspect she was that "someone" who cut down the wire from my cable also, she is capable of that!

And back to my question, has any of you, possibly the ones with N parents, had to deal with this sort of harrasement? Can they give you a restriction order, or at least something! To keep her away

Thank you for reading..

Feb 24 - 2PM
agnesmurphy17
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Restriction Order

I suppose a restriction order is a restraining order. In my state here in the northeast, you most certainly can get a restraining order against your mother. A criminal restraining order in my state requires either 1. a family member, or 2. intimate partner, or 3. physically living together roomates. You mention past beatings & verbal abuse. All this counts here. In my state, a person has to be in fear. Sounds like fear to me. In my state they would believe your mother is abusive if you went to the trouble to go to court and say so. You would get an emergency order valid for 10-14 days. Then your mother would be invited to hearing so she could contest the issuance of the order for an entire year. You need to appear at this second hearing as well in my state. In my state there is also another thing called a criminal harrassment order. This is for people who are not related as listed for a criminal restraining order. One needs a pattern for this, ie, three times of harassment. Leaving nasty notes is harrassment. These would be evidence in the family RO discussed above. On the internet, you should be able to find out the requirements & procedures for filing for what you call a restriction order. There's so much information out there for free on the web.
Feb 25 - 2AM (Reply to #4)
greengirl91
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Thank you, I did the

Thank you, I did the research. Turns out that in my country these types of laws are very poorly developed, as much as any other laws. But if things like that keep repeating, I don`t know, probably I will try even this choice. I found there is such a thing as a "harrasement order", but without stronger evidence, and sometimes even with that, it is still hard especially when they have a face persona" for the public, and other with me. But it is worth to try. I`m keeping everything, just in case..usually I`d throw those things because I got sad and angry only being reminded of them.
Feb 25 - 6PM (Reply to #5)
fooled no longer
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what country is that? there

what country is that? there is an internaional resource site I can send you. You can get an RO.
Feb 28 - 2AM (Reply to #6)
greengirl91
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Fooled no longer, I sent you

Fooled no longer, I sent you a PM. Just in case, we don`t know who else can read this stuff. :)
Feb 24 - 11AM
oceangirl
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You could file police reports

You could file police reports if your property gets damaged. Then they conduct investigations. Get something on record. Just an idea. I wish I would've kept a note I'd found. Keep everything.
Feb 25 - 3AM (Reply to #2)
greengirl91
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I will, I will. I haven`t

I will, I will. I haven`t asked for anything, tried to detach as much as possible emotionally, but she keeps sending me threathening texts, or emails, and this is the second time when she comes unannounced. She knows very clear that she is not welcomed in my life, after everything we have been through. I never heard a simple "Yes" from her, everything, everything was about performance. And comparisons. I was born to fail, to make her feel better. You cannot really "win" with a Narcisist as you most probably know. Because everything HAS to be about them, them the center of attention. Each and every conversation was so draining and tireing, because exactly like in the movie "Mommie dearest", she HAD to win over me at all costs. I have detached financially as well. I am pretty poor right now if you know what I mean, and my grandma supports me basically with some finances, while I am searching for a job. All the hate, all the anger and frustration inside her was directed at me, born to be "the scapegoat", in a family of Narcs. The thing is, I have been through way too much too care about these games now. I sent her a message, then disconnected my phone, "If 20 years spent with you in the same house didn`t kill me, do you think you can scare e now?". I don`t know who I am, what I like, what makes me happy, because all my life has been "programmed" to do more, more, more, it was never enough whatever I would have done. So I have a predominant feeling of failure you can say right now, even if I know the theory of her being a Narcisist, of being incapable of love, period. Thank you for listening.