Can I get back at him?

Not unless you're prepared to have a nude photo of yourself circulated all over the internet for future employers to see, family members, etc.. I had guys jokingly ask me once "are there any nude photos of you?" and I replied "not of me conscious". You see what a bitch that guy can be - sure you've heard about boys who get racy pix of girls and blast it all over the place - very concerning that you're not considering these well known and common risks.

I THINK NO!!!!!!!! WHY WOULD YOU EVEN WANT TO DO THIS? IF YOU WANT REVENGE...THEN IGNORE HIM....THAT WILL BE YOUR BEST REVENGE...

"CYBERPATH" a new breed of predators. They sit in front their computers with their penis in one hand and type with the other. They study your profile...study the details of pictures...google you...search you on facebook. If you like dogs...they LOVE dogs...If you like swimming...they LOVE swimming...if are a Christian...SO ARE THEY! If you are Jewish...THEM TOO! The kind of bait you use will determine what you catch. If you put up or send provocative pics you will attract a sex addict. They will study you like a bug under glass, then use the information get what they were trolling for in the place.

This man wanted sex from you plain and simple. There is no confusion there. When he could tell that you wanted something more, you became a waste of his time. He wanted your photo for whacking material. He most likely gets off on playing with women online. He may or may not have had any intentions of using you for a hookup but it's clear to see that when you would not play ball with him in terms of wanting to be a sex object he grew bored. Some of these guys want to do all the play online, via webcam and pics and others want to meetup once they figure out whether or not you are going to put out. It can go either way. This sort of thing happens thousands of times a day on the internet. This is a high for these guys to see what they can get. A game. Can I get a nude pic? Can I get some websex? Will she sleep with me if we hookup? He was sending you all the signals and you were ignoring them. This is about sex addicts who are online looking to secure new supply whenever they get the chance. The real question here is your self worth and why you continued to engage online with a random stranger who was repeatedly talking about sex and asking you for nude pics, you were getting your answer from the get go. He was showing and telling you who is was all along. When you are looking for a relationship online, you do not continue to engage with a man who is talking about sex before you have even met, you delete delete delete. Putting a pic of you in a bathing suit on the Internet is sending out the wrong message. It is saying look at my body, so naturally the whacko's are going to look and say, let's go. I think what you really need to do is to do some research on what takes place on the Internet, that it is a preditors playground and women need to be informed of this and stop talking to and engaging online with men who put sex out there first instead of you. Educate yourself to the fact that a man who is using you for sex or sex talk and pics, is NOT NOT NOT looking for a girlfriend. He is looking for porn. You are playing with fire online because you don't know who you are dealing with, and talking about sex and nude pics with you is a HUGE RED FLAG. Look inside of yourself and ask yourself what it is you want and once you figure this out, it becomes easy to say no to what you do not want. You cannot change a man who is looking for casual sex and a internet sexual intrique to value you and treat you with respect. This is not going to happen, so when you allowed him to engage with the sex talk and when he asked for a pic and you did not delete him, he just figured that you were into this. I have no idea whether or not he is a narc or not, he sure is a sex addict looking to play mind games with women online, that is for certain. Take the bathing suit pic down, don't talk about sex with random men online and I think you will be fine. "When people show you who they are the first time, believe them." maya angelou God bless, Goldie

The very WORST thing you can do to a narcissist is treat them as tho they don't matter...don't count...that everything about them was inconsequential to you. That they are BORING and a big yawn. That means dropping them in cold blood. Forgetting their name. And if you see them act like you don't know them. Your message to him should be loud and clear "You don't matter. Just go away" Build a big wall between you and don't let him breach it.

ANY response from you will boost his ego. The only thing that will hurt him is total apathy on your part. Put him in the past and your holiday will be a Happy Holiday.

Lol, reading your post I felt certain you were talking of my exN! We don't encourage revenge on this forum and as a new member, please understand this going forward. The more you learn about narcs, the easier you will get why it is a no win concept. I must admit, your idea about what would be vengeful confuses me though. When it comes to a narc, giving him something so personal and intimate will not HURT him at all - likely the opposite. Narcs don't care about missing out on sex with a great body, to them a body (great or not) is only an object to be used for sex or supply. Usually there are plenty of others to choose from because narcs almost always have at least one or two back ups being 'groomed'. What he gets or got from you isn't about sex, or about caring about you and definitely not about love at all - it is about his maintaining power and control to get his narcissistic supply needs met. Nothing more. Sorry to put it so blunt, but giving them anything at all only prolongs their feeling of strength and power. Ignore and delete! Welcome to the forum by the way :)

Personally, I think you will get much greater revenge on him if you completely forgot about him. Narcs are used to their women being hooked on them, if you really want to give.him a taste of his own medicine, discard him completely just like he would until you forget his name! P.s. he might even be asexual like mine was and not really care about sex, in which case he's just teasing you and creating that fake sexual tension! He does not deserve that picture of you.

I think you need to spend time reading.. This is not a game.. There is no revenge.. If it was as easy as the two pharagrahs you just wrote none of us would be here.. Again.. Please spend more time reading.. Knowledge is power. Hunter

No way, no how, should you even remotely consider doing this. The only revenge you should seek, is healing. That is the best revenge of all. don't lower yourself to his level. He is a predator, and where you met, on line, there are plenty more. In my case 877 more possibilities. Cut loose from this man, he is trouble, always will be, and you don't need an on line relationship, you need an in-person relationship, at least part of the time.. LDR are hard, and rarely work, because of the distance and the inability to be together, same with online dating. Rarely works, if ever at all. Your not from Minnesoat by any chance are you? LOL