broke NC today
broke NC today
I had told my N i needed to take some time away from him,and that i would contact him when im ready.He said okay and didnt call for a while.Then he called and left messeges on my phone that he misses me and can we get together for coffee. I tried to egnore it and told myself that he's lying and doesnt miss me, but i gave in and called the next day.
We hung out together and went for walks for a few hours.talked alot.I had planned to tell him about how his indifference is hurtful.Its one of the reasons i took time away from him in the first place--never feeling like i was really important to him.Now, he hasnt seen me (till today) for about 2 mo, but it doesnt seem like he missed me that much.He tells me with his words that he loves and misses me, but his behavior and choices, and priorities contradict that.
I am still alot more attached to him than i thought. And seeing him today really was sad.He said that he thinks its a good idea i had to back off, and that its probably more healthy for both of us to only see and talk to each other every once in a while, instead of constant like before.That was MY idea, because he wasnt treating me right.and now he is fine with it?!
i think he's trying to keep me on a string, and doesnt truly want a future with me.I said i have mixed feelings about seeing him only every once in a while, and that to me its sad. He said "Oh, im not sad. i feel okay with it cause i dont want us to be hurtful to each other,and i need to work on myself," etc.
I guess i should have expected this reaction from him.After all, i knew deep down that he's not serious about keeping me. I cant believe how painful this is, and what a hard time im having to try and get over him! I dont know if i will be okay in life without him....and yes he wants to keep in touch,but i feel like he's long gone.How do you know if you'll get over someone?
So it was his idea all of a
Indifference
didnt tell him what i planned to
Been sober along time