Briseis it has happened.

Just as I feared... after sharing with a friend here as you suggested. to keeps telling me he will see the light and come around. Fuck its so doubly annoying. To have broken the silence and not have people believe you.

So last week after his D & D he bought an enormous bouquest of Flowers and a sorry note, he arrived bearing these after an awful week. Since I had decided just to be fake to keep things on a manageable level till i could escape. I removed my emotions as much as I can
So then he started up again. So I took the flowers and threw them on the rubbish heap. It was a Sunday and he was around the house all day. they were on the dinning room table which you see 24/7. after about 8 hours he suddenly asked so what happened to the flowers( so unobservant) I said i threw them away... he cried. First time.
Ah crying over wasted money yes.
So I took pity and put them back.
On Monday my friend came around and of course the first and only thing she spied was those damn flowers. ( wish Id remebered to put them back on the rubbish heap=.
She said "you see he brought you flowers, he is a good man you are just exaggerating! dont be so negative, I have never had flowers from my husband"...
Oh God! I tried to say that flowers were no indicator of anything except guilt, but she went on and on about how I should just accept him and how lucky I was to get flowers.

Fuck.
In the end I said
"Do you know that right at this moment in time in this town there are woman in hospital and emergency having been battered by the men in their lives. And do you know what they all have in common? She looked at me through narrowed eyes.
What I bet they all have in common is that they have been given flowers by him and told by their friends you see its not so bad..

She didnt like that, but I said it.

OH man why didnt those flowers stay thrown away!