A bouquet of flowers equals further torture
A bouquet of flowers equals further torture
18 months after deciding to divorce and NH is sending me flowers again, promising that he's changed, asking for another chance.
I've spent $20,000 in legal fees trying to get this finished. My new attorney is the one that has promised to wrap this up, but it will take another 3-4 months and us going to court for the judge to sign papers granting me a STANDARD divorce decree, with STANDARD visitation and support. I'm not asking for anything more than what the state allows, and am agreeing to the minimum on support and maximum on visitation.
And he still won't sign.
For 3 weeks of every month I am told how delusional, boring, selfish, and awful I am. I have bad skin, lack any kind of fashion sense, whatever friends I have only feel sorry for me, and what a good job I do at playing the victim. He can't believe he stayed married to me for 10 years, that he allowed me to stay home and 'take advantage' of him while I raised our 3 children, and he is demanding that I reimburse him for part of the mortgage for the years that I did not work due to staying home. Because I won't (and hello, DON'T HAVE TO), I am just proving to 'everyone' the type of person I have become.
But that 1 week a month he has reverse PMS...flowers arrive, and I usually start to cry (never in front of him). Because it means he's back to begging for forgiveness. For another chance. To realize that our kids deserve a whole, intact family. He's going to show me just how he can be better and stop talking about it. and by the way, here's a trip to mexico...just he and I...let's rekindle that spark.
Over Christmas Eve I saw notes he was making to himself, wondering what would happen if he crawled into bed with me (he was invited to stay and sleep on the couch as the snow was so bad). I locked the bedroom door as a precaution.
Included in that note was 'what if I kissed her. would she kiss me back?'. I haven't allowed him to touch me in exactly two years (after he told me to 'eff off' in front of friends, and I realized it was over).
So now we're back to roses and begging. Lighthearted attempts at getting me to give in and let down my guard, with a sinister edge that will reappear once he realizes that even this attempt will not work.
I have not wavered, not once. I have not given him false hope of any kind.
But he will not let go.
I am so tired.
THINK WORD SALAD
UPDATE:
Great Update - LineInTheSand
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Sounds exhausting. I am so
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We need to get over this!
abreva
I'm back.
Believe in yourself!
Terri
Thank you, Terri You
You should ask him why the
trust me, I have
A standard line from the psychopath
Abreva that is SO TRUE!!!
"You know, let's just not
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God sometimes removes a person from your life for your protection. Don't run after them.
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Yes, that's exactly what it
Gracerella, you are
thank you. I need to be