BEWARE: The Narcissist and Patience

This is very true , it took my narc 2 years to swindle me back in (worst mistake of my life) i suspect i was the longest it ever took him to get supply. when my mind is set i usually don't bend he used alot of tactics with me. a bf i was with had died and this mf came flying down here i mean my bf probably was lukewarm in his grave and N shows up thinking i was vulnerable and easy to manipulate . his dumbazz just doesn't know how i am. ppl should never underestimate me when i'm a a weak point usually this is when i'm the strongest believe it or not. because i feel like i'm already hurting and i need to concentrate on my pain and this person needs to back up off me is my thoughts. N thought he was going to spend the night and sleep with me at my new apt. the one me and my bf had just been days later HELL NO! told N to get lost he said but i don't have any money for a hotel (he was living 500 miles away) i told him thats your problem noone told you to bring your azz down here. yes i told him just like that it pissed me off that he had no respect, i didn't care if he saw his daughter and spent time with her but there was no you and me in this at that time. N tried for two years to get me back he would call and check up on his daughter but really it was to check up on me. i remember the day he swindled me back in like it was yesterday. i was cooking dinner and he asked me what was i cooking i said t-bone steaks i guess that sounded way better than those microwave meals his current unknown gf cooked because after i told him that he was calling often and trying to get back with me . i called him corny and told i wasn't interested. he got pissed and hung up stopped calling for a few days and then he called with his gf on the phone lmaooo. told her all these lies about me told her that i was the one who wanted him to stay in my apt. i told her he never told me a thing about you i'm just finding out right now and he was the one who asked me to stay in my place. i even told her about when he came down here after my bf at that time had died. she said he told her about the death i said did he tell you how he wanted to stay in my place. she said no. smh oh yeah they are very patient. time is on their side so to speak.

Slam that door shut and lock it with a dead bolt! Hunter

OMG! This just scared the be-jesus out of me. I am always wondering about my narc returning months from now. I hate to think about it.

I watched my Narc friend patiently pursue a lady he introduced me to for two whole years maybe longer until he put the final hook/noose around her neck. He dined her gave her gifts and money to help her with her grandkids that she is raising then proceeded to isolate her from her friends, family and a community organization she belonged to. It makes me sick and very angry that he has treated this woman this way and now she is fully under his power and control. I can imagine the hell he is putting her through.

if there are women on this board who,s predator never comes back , then this surely contradicts it self, he can wait years? for what?,some members have never been contacted again, and as for them coming back 2mnths 2years 20 years, everyone in my life who i have lost contact with ie, i moved ectect has eventually had contact with me again, they cant all be predators and i am definatly not, a few times i have read things that appear to contradict and its getting confusing

Agree 100% I watched as narc would not respond to a text from a girl of his past for days, even weeks and eventually he'd start up that conversation again... I pray for him that he's smart enough to never try that here with this girl =) They are very patient- Thankfully I'm the opposite, have been since I was little!

Absolutely true. They never forget their supply, new or old. They bide their time. Creepy little buggers huh? God bless, Goldie