Being hoovered and I'm wobbling

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#1 Jan 20 - 10AM

Jar of hearts

Being hoovered and I'm wobbling

Hi everyone
This is my first post on here about my situation, I've not shared my story yet as I'm just that worn out with my exN at the mo I feel I'm back to 2008/9 when he walked away from me pregnant with his child ( he had 4 already , 3 to his ex wife,1 to another lady) and caused me untold grief and stress with his lies n behaviour . After our son was born he continued his onslaught ( I will share my story so you have the full picture) . To cut a long story short he is married now and we had no contact for 18 mnths and now due to my stupidity asking a question regarding my little one he is back with a vengeance , we have since nov been through mr charmer, mr liar, mr aggressive and now back with mr in disbelief that I cut contact again since 5th Jan 2012. I'm wobbling today about replying to text although I'm amused by his disbelief I could be giving him the cold shoulder. His recent lies have been about his parents being ill ( they arent! ) he is continuing to mock what happened to my dad before he passed away 7 years ago but he doesn't realise I know that's what he is doing!! He is one sick and twisted individual so why the hell do I want to reply?? I make myself mad!!!
Sorry if I'm ranting just needing some support today! So glad I found this website and forum xx

#2 Jan 20 - 7PM

ichooselife

I would stay FAR away from him...its not worth it.

He will do much damage if you let him in your life.

#3 Jan 20 - 6PM

IncognitoBurrito

Hey there

I guess I don't really have any pointers to give. I struggle with not giving into the temptation of replying, too. So, I just thought I'd throw some solidarity your way. You're not alone. Do the best you can. I'm sure a few distractions might take your mind off of the urge to respond, for a while. If he's that much of a liar, he can't be trusted no matter what he says, anyway. So, any back and forth from him will just be more weird, made up, lies. You don't need that in your life. Let him stay in disbelief, let him wonder. Keep your focus on your child together. Keep any questions/emails/correspondence short, to the point, and about your child only. That's all I've got, for now. Hang in there, you're not alone.

#4 Jan 20 - 5PM

Femmegem

hey J.o.H

You should accept that although Its not right to want to contact him its natural after everything you've been through. Dont beat yourself up over it but you have to stick to the NC rule, i've been burned few times when temptation got the better of me. Even if you want to have a go at him, just come and rant here sweetheart. X

#5 Jan 20 - 3PM

Jar of hearts

Thank you

Hi again Sorry for late response back I was at work when I sent it, Thankyou so much for your support I think I've reached a point where I do know what I need to do, I see through him completely and he has done and said some horrendous things so why would I want to even give him the time of day???..... That is what I ask myself daily! :-( Xx

#6 Jan 20 - 10AM

Used

jar of hearts

Welcome to the forum, stay here, we will stop you wobbling.....

#7 Jan 20 - 10AM

Snowflake

Jar of hearts

Love that song by the way but it does make me cry!!! He can offer you nothing, do not be tempted by the hoover, he has already shown you again what he is like. Of course he is in disbelief because he is supposed to be the very reason you are living and you are supposed to be in awe of his charm, charisma etc. etc. etc. He is a horrible horrible man, write here instead please do not reply to him x

#8 Jan 20 - 10AM (Reply to #2)

spinning

Jar, this is a brilliant observation

by Snowflake. I think you know it's the truth, too. Be strong. Post here instead. We will help you. You can do it! Reject the CHAOS! Stay strong and No Contact. Hugs from (not) spinning. IT'S A FIGHT BUT I'M IN IT FOR THE LONG HAUL

spinning

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