The beauty of NC

I wanted to thank all of you...for preaching about staying NC. I never ever would have thought that to employ that, but 12 days ago, I went NC (after my goodbye letter) and while it was hard in the beginning, (I'd say day 4 through 8 is the hardest for some reason) I am feeling worlds stronger.

N reached out to me yesterday. In an email that seemed like nothing bad had ever happened between us. ha As if I had never sent a goodbye letter. (in which I explicitly stated "it's time for us to say goodbye now") lol

NC has empowered me. It's brought me back to life. In just 12 days, I have prayed more, read more, done things with friends more...just got back to ME. I forgot who me was when this guy was in my life. We were in friendship mode, but I permitted him to have too much control over my thoughts. We were in constant contact it seemed, and this hiatus has brought me peace. I didn't think it would come this quickly. I do still think about him, and the friendship/relationship that ''was,'' but I have a peace that is surprising me.

So, he wrote to me yesterday. I did not reply. I saw him on IM yesterday around the same time he sent the email, and did not say hello to him, like I normally would. That was his MO. (our MO) Whenever he would tick me off, I'd stop talking to him for a few days, then he would write to me, something random and like nothing ever happened (God forbid he ever apologized) and then he'd sit on IM...like a spider with a fly. lol I would walk into the web...and then the cycle would begin again.

Not yesterday though. No more. My friend who has walked with me through this said...''he must be stunned that you have not replied to him. He might even take your goodbye letter seriously now!'' We both laughed.

Maybe. But all I say is...if you are struggling with staying NC. STAY NC NO MATTER WHAT. It is therapeutic. It is life giving. You will gain your strength back through this measure. I promise you.

Narcs are very good fishermen. They use a variety of bait, depending on what works with individual women. Don't take the bait. You have to ask yourself...why do I want someone in my life who doesn't cherish me? The answer lies within you.

God bless, and stay NC!