Just read an article about "fake empathy" that said
"On the surface, the empathy of the narcissist seems to be genuine...Pseudo-empathy is exquisitely designed by the narcissist to manipulate others so they will fulfill his narcissistic needs."
The narcissist puts on an impeccably convincing performance, fooling many people. He is a masterful actor. People want to believe that the narcissist really cares about them, especially when he/she turns on the magnetic charm and fixates all of his attention on you. There is always a reason why a narcissist extends himself to someone else. He is expecting you to fulfill his narcissistic supplies for admiration, BUSINESS CONNECTIONS, MONEY, the company of an attractive man or woman, social status.
So I just looked back through my emails. My dad passed on Feb 11...N spent TONS of time with me on that day providing amazing support that I thought was real. But then those three weeks while I was in the hospital the support was sprinked in with abuse - wierd. ..... And now I find an email on Feb 15 from N, before my dad's funeral even, telling me that because of everything N has done for me and my company that I should provide him further employment - for another 6 months. The focus of that email was NOT OFFERING his help due to the tragedy that just happened; the focus of that email was that BECAUSE HE HAS HELPED ME...I SHOULD PROVIDE HIM WITH MORE WORK! He was essentially guilting me into keeping him onboard, less than one week after my father passed tragically! As if that was the #1 thing on my mind at the moment! AND - he was PISSED at me because I said I needed a few days to think about it and talk to the owner about it! OMG - reading back on this was unreal. How could he force me to make a big decision like that 4 days after my dad's death and get PISSED that I wasn't making the decision fast enough for his taste and demeaned me in the process that I needed to start making decisions on my own if this company was to survive! We actually got into an email war about it!
The realization that he probably did FAKE all of that support with me to get financial gain - is incredibly disgusting and makes me cry just thinking about it.