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Nov 21 - 2AM
Jelickuk
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Whilst he was crying and

Whilst he was crying and asking to come home to be with me and our children in June. I asked about his ow. He said.... "Oh that, well that will probably fizzle out anyway" Oh!!well thats ok then
Nov 21 - 6AM (Reply to #24)
bumblebee
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haha

Just the morning laugh I needed Jelickuk!
Nov 21 - 1AM
lillymarch
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The ex husband narc cheated

The ex husband narc cheated on me tons but after one time he said: "I went to a holy man (in India) and he said I was supposed to be with someone with my mothers name." The woman he was with had a name similar to his step-mother. It wasn't even the same name. Just a few weeks ago he said, "Is Elizabeth still filling your head with these things!" Elizabeth is my therapist, and I had just told him to meet me at the mediators if he wanted to discuss the children. (He tries to engage me in these long drawn out conversations about the kids. I just won't do it. He can't stand that.) Is my head empty? When I had a brand new baby, I was talking to him, trying to get him to stay home on the weekends to help me (five children, one a brand new baby, homeschooling everyone, I'm the only one working). He said, " You just need a simple man. I'm too complicated for you." What a f-ning idiot. He left after that conversation and I cried and cried. Once, after I caught him cheating another time, he was playing the 'poor me' card. We have a lot of Oak Trees around and the Oak moths were everywhere. A lot of them were flying around (it was night time and they were attracted to the light). Several of them landed on him. He started to imply that the dark colored moths were a sign of his death. They were attracted to him because of the darkness inside of him. Weirdo. I have so many more but it really bothers me that I stayed with this crazy person for so long!! What was I thinking?!?!?! I'm so embarrassed!
Nov 20 - 10PM
blueworld
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one of many HUH?

this is one of many huh things he said this is a text from a year ago when i was fighting with him and not answering his texts AFTER he blew up at me and broke up with me...seriously..seriously lol This is my only text or call. I'm sorry for all of this. I never wanted to see you cry. I already miss you. I ache. I love you & always will. Please Fly high and strong, for you truly are an angel. I could never keep you, for i am merely a weak soul. Goodbye. I won't forget you. then i didnt respond to that i got this.... I love her so badly. I don't think I will be able to just move on. I know i did this, but i just wish we could go back to just love the other. No drama. then this one lmao..... Oh god! I'm sorry for sending that to you. I really didn't mean to. I'm not trying to bug you. It was an accident. I'm sorry. Please. seriously ladies..these are copy pasted from last year from my journal i started because i felt like i was crazy
Nov 20 - 10PM (Reply to #20)
Gravity
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blueworld

hahahahaha OH the ol' "wrong text" tactic. LAME! Do these guys think we're idiots!? Didn't realize we were still using AIM tricks from 1992! Couldn't he have come up with anything better!? Thank God you dodged that bullet!
Nov 20 - 10PM (Reply to #21)
blueworld
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Gravity

seriously.. he has done this since i was with him three years here's another < because dammnit its fun making fun of that MF> Seriously dude. I cannot just stop thinking about her. Yeah, exercise works for all of 20 minutes, but i'm on the strip right now, with no clue why. I don't want to hook up or even flirt. I'm sure i creep everyone out, since i wear my emotions out on my sleeves. if she was here, i'd be having a great time. watched the fountains, checked out city center, saw a heard of elvis's . But it's nothing without someone to share it with. Damnit! Why did she do this to me? Seriously! I hate this feeling. I did nothing wrong and we're no longer. I know she's still in vegas, because i can still feel her.If she's gone back to her son. that's why still feel her. I reminded her of her son. I love her more than my heart could ever bear. She hates me for to her with love and empathy and took the # #1 memory from her and told her it was a lie. I wanted her to know the truth, but i guess i should have taken it to my grave. She deserves the best, i don't know what i am. i never cheated. I'm glad ofthat. this is after i left him at our motel to stay with a co worker because he was lying about texting another girl and FB..... this is yet another ACCIDENT
Nov 20 - 10PM
dulcinea441
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"I am a force of nature," he

"I am a force of nature," he would say. "Yeah," I'm thinking, "like the Ebola virus."
Nov 21 - 2AM (Reply to #18)
Jelickuk
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lol brilliant

lol brilliant
Nov 20 - 9PM
Winter
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The idiot said:

"You use sex as an excuse to feel used" Can you believe this guys? Lol... What an idiot!
Nov 27 - 5PM (Reply to #16)
ruby01 (not verified)
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Okay,

What?
Nov 20 - 9PM (Reply to #15)
Gravity
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Winter

Translation: "I am using you and I'm trying to justify it." What an idiot!!!!
Nov 20 - 9PM
ReclaimingPower
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I'd have to say...

..after complaining for MONTHS on end about how badly he wanted more time with his kids ("you have no idea what it is like to not have primary custody!") and telling me how horrible his ex wife was (to being a drunk to neglecting the kids' health and their poor grooming, her bad cooking and school/house work), he told me she might be pregnant with the new boyfriend's child. When I mentioned the possibility that she'd let him have the kids more days, his response was: "I'm not a fucking babysitter!" That comment was a gift for me -- the biggest mask slip ever!
Nov 20 - 9PM
Susan32
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Let's get personal

After the final D&D, after meeting the ex-Psych prof's girlfriend, the ex-P declared, "Think of me as JUST A TEACHER!" Good luck with that, after having met his girlfriend, after all his talk about his maternal grandmother, his sister, his mother, and his father Nicholas. And his Massachusetts upbringing. Being a native Californian whose Dad went to UC Berkeley. Tell a bunch of personal stuff. When I questioned him on THAT, he said, "I was TRYING to look human." As for the personal stuff he said-it was stored for future use, just like those Mormon emergency 24 hour supply kits, with non-perishable foods and a flashlight. You'll never know when you need to use it.
Nov 27 - 5PM (Reply to #12)
ruby01 (not verified)
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Susan32

That was a fail
Nov 20 - 9PM (Reply to #10)
Gravity
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Susan32

I love how he admitted that he was "TRYING" to look human. Sometimes they spell things out.. and he clearly was spelling out the fact that empathy is the one thing that makes us all human.. and therefore he is NOT!
Nov 26 - 7PM (Reply to #11)
Susan32
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So I ran from my past...

The ex-Psych prof was basically parroting NPD websites (I think he was quoting Sam Vaknin) By that time, I got to brass tacks (and the equivalent to his ego of brass knuckles) telling him that when he was born, the poster outside said "It's a boy" not "It's a professor." I reminded him that when he was born, he wasn't a teacher. He didn't have that role. So, the fact that he was a professor wasn't THAT important. He was the emotionless type. He didn't just lack empathy... he lacked feelings of his own. As for me, I left New Mexico, went to Oregon, ended up here in California. I wanted to RUN not walk from that past. I talk about it here rather than with my parents. So, because the cosmos has a perverse sense of humor (not unlike mine), my sister is in Massachusetts (Boston to be precise), she has a little boy. She is married to a Nicholas, who graduated from Harvard. God is showing me, in a very LITERAL way, that when I fell for the ex-P, I was in love with a toddler in a middle-aged man's body. I prefer my 2 year old nephew. I like your "We don't see things as they are/we see them as we are." During the final D&D, the ex-P would angrily accuse me of projecting MY positive qualities onto him due to my low self-esteem. I was weirded out.
Nov 20 - 9PM
freaked
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mine said..' you are first

mine said..' you are first woman i saw ..." gosh embarassing to type this... euphemistically speaking..he said i was the first woman he saw minus clothes...and I asked..'then how many others have you see like that?" I was an idiot those days..had NO CLUE about PD. I would give smartass rejoinders and fight. Now..things have changed SO MUCH after i joined this forum. i say nothing..and am no longer 'available' for the freak. Today the narc is my toaster...and I am reclaiming my Soul's identity.. i am human, he is not. Praying to God to deliver me from this evil at the earliest possible. God bless you all at the Forum.. i have all of you in my prayers everyday.
Nov 27 - 4PM (Reply to #8)
Susan32
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The Narc is my toaster...

I shall not want. I shall sit upon green pastures. I shall not be afraid in the valley of the shadow of death. He's YOUR toaster now, and better him than you!
Nov 20 - 10PM (Reply to #6)
dulcinea441
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Good for you. Shut him down,

Good for you. Shut him down, feed him no energy. Let him know just how worthless he is in your eyes by your silence.
Nov 20 - 10PM (Reply to #7)
freaked
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thanks Dulcinea

Thank you for this encouragement Dulcinea. I have become really really clever these days.. i have learnt to LIE TO HIM WITH A STRAIGHT FACE AND CLEAR CONSCIENCE I have made him go footloose into a fantasy world where he is beginning to be convinced that me and our child absolutely worship the ground he treads on.. talk of an empath's Trojan Horse!!!! I am cranking the pedestal higher and higher and higher...so when he falls..he will guaranteed smash his ouw lifebreath. I have reached a very new space in my journey .. it is a place where i feel nothing for the abusive husband. and i don't feel any need or urge to screw him with words.. i am setting him up now with a long long rope...so one day very soon he will strangle himself with it. yoo hoo.. surprisingly...in every other area of my life I am still very much an empath. ONLY this NH and NB (narc sibling)... i do this act. I feel like Dorothy en route to Oz. I hope the Mayans prediction about 2012 is true...and that we see a total eradication of every evil soul on our planet. Peace be with you Dulcinea.. thank you for replying to my post.
Nov 20 - 9PM
Hunter
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" stop seeing the shrink

" stop seeing the shrink she's putting ideas in your head about me""" Ok.. I'm laughing as I type this... Idiot.. Hunter
Nov 20 - 9PM (Reply to #3)
Gravity
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Hunter

HA.HA.HA translation: Stop seeing the shrink.. she is helping you to understand who I really am!!! In hindsight they are SUCH FOOLS!!!!!!!!!!
Nov 20 - 9PM (Reply to #4)
Susan32
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I got the opposite

The ex-Psych would send me to the therapist, she'd diagnose him with NPD, and she WANTED him to be her patient (kinda difficult, since she was his colleague, a fellow prof, talk about conflict of interest) THey didn't use the term NPD back then... but all the therapist would say is "Mr. T--- is a very sick angry man." Best way of summing it up. I'm glad I NEVER went to "couples" therapy with him. He would've manipulated;no closure. I'm glad I went on my own. And pre-Cana would've been agony with him. So glad it never came to that. He&I were MORE doomed than Kim&Kris Kardashian-Humphries.
Nov 20 - 9PM
Gravity
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nomoredenial

After asking if he had feelings for his ex-girlriend he first avoided the question. Then he said "well.. I like her." YOU LIKE HER!?!?!?!?! After he had been badgering me for weeks/hours/days about who I was with!?!? Lol. Yeah, you "like her" because she was still giving you supply you fool. And yeah you have feelings for her.. feelings of envy, rage, and contempt. Idiot.