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#1 Oct 6 - 12PM
finallydone
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Article I thought was great

This has probably been posted on here at some point before, but I just pulled this up out of my archives of research from 4 years ago (that's how long I've been suspecting this issue), but it means more to me know as I have come this much further down the road.

I apologize if this is redundant, but thought some others might like to read. I hope the link works for you.

http://cosmicwalk.co.za/effects-of-narcissism.html

Oct 6 - 1PM
tina
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finallydone- this is perfect!

I for one have not seen this article before and I have to tell you, this is PERFECT. With every bullet point, I found myself saying "yes, thats me!" "yes, I felt, thought, and wondered all that!!!" I know we read so many articles on our healing journey but sometime certain ones seem to reach right inside and touch your heart. This one did for me. Thank you.
Oct 6 - 5PM (Reply to #4)
finallydone
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I'm so glad

I'm really glad you found it helpful. This particular paragraph is what caught my attention again when going through my rather long archives of things: "Memories come flooding back. Some you did not even know that you had. As each one comes forward, you begin to see the incidents clearly for the first time and you finally can start to understand. Each memory will bring its own emotions and further insights and some will hit really hard, but this is finally the path of healing and not the senseless pain of abuse. There is a hope and an encouragement in that - and even further liberation." I think it's because just here lately, a lot of memories of "incident" with him have been crossing my mind. Like a memory will pop up and will stun me and then hurt for a second as I realize "Oh my God... why didn't I see that???" And I can tell that when it happened, although it was horribly upsetting or stressful or whatever it was that was always far too dramatic... I really had absolutely no idea what was going on. But when the memory comes up now, I see if far more clearly. Does that make sense? It's so hard to describe what happens.... but at any rate that paragraph jumped out at me and I connected in a new way to the article. I'm glad you found it helpful. :) I must be in a new phase here because I wasn't posting for awhile... just reading when I needed some re-enforcement... but I've felt a lot of things lately that I've needed to jump back in. You guys are the best support system. Thank goodness for Lisa creating this and for Barbara's incredible help.
Oct 6 - 6PM (Reply to #5)
tina
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Me too

Yes, thank goodness this wonderful board is here for all of us. I too have been off the board for a bit and would pull it up just to read but a few stories really began to stand out. There are so many strong people here, amazing how much we have in common. I must say, finallydone, you are truly moving forward. I remember reading your earlier posts and am amazed how far you have come! Again, while I loved that entire article you posted, the part that got me was this: -Life-dissection. You find yourself going back over your life and reliving all sorts of things. Your general life dynamics, specific incidents, particular moments - the good and the bad. You look at them upside down and inside out, trying to see all the things that you could not see at the time. Questioning and testing everything, then refiling it in your mind, sometimes with a bit more insight and sometimes with a completely fresh perspective. One that finally makes sense.- I still have lonely times but my wise mother once told me 'it is much better to be alone than it is to be lonely in a relationship' Life is a journey, Thank God its finally making sense :)
Oct 6 - 4PM (Reply to #2)
4joys (not verified)
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I always find it odd yet

I always find it odd yet comforting that we doubt ourselves and ask if we are the narcissists.
Oct 6 - 4PM (Reply to #3)
Barbara (not verified)
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we aren't

A narcissist would NEVER ask if they are a Narcissist. http://www.blogtalkradio.com/allabouthim/2009/05/21/All-About-Him- http://www.lisaescott.com/2009/07/23/healthy-vs-unhealthy-narcissism ~~~~~~~~~~~~ "Pathologicals only discard the best, most precious of gems of people... not the worst. They despise the strong, principled, decent & honest. Their discarding of you is then their highest commendation of your worth!" - A.V.