Are You Trauma Bonded? Do You Have 'Stockholm Syndrome'?

Thanks for this, Barbara. It all makes sense as to why I am acting and feeling the way I am. I always feared he would leave me because he kept an ongoing drama with his daughter about going back to his country. I see now that he knew I feared abandonment from my past and so kept this subtle message going to me that he could leave at any time. He told me of his troubled childhood, but only after he was caught in an affair. This way, I felt sorry and had hopes that with therapy, together, we could fix the relationship. He seperated me from support. When we went to a therapist or pastor of our church for help, he would lie and pretend that everything I sad never happened. This isolated me in the abuse and made me feel it was my fault. Moneywise, I controlled the bills. I was responsible for taking care of money matters, BUT he knew I couldnt make it on my own without him now, so I was trapped and had to take whatever abuse came. Thats why, after he abandoned me he also took all of our savings. it was a double whammy. Being left at a drop of the hat and also making sure I had nothing to live on. That was my punishment. I had read about Stockholm syndrome, but it took me this long (10 months) to relate to it.