are there women who are immune to a narc?

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#1 Sep 20 - 10PM
wish i wasn't here
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are there women who are immune to a narc?

it has been a year since my D&D. my narc did it by first changing his profile picture on facebook to one with his arms around this seriously seriously skanky ooking girl, then he cheated on me with her. i could go into the whole saga, but that is for the "my story" page, right? well, for the last year, he has drifted in and out of my life. he'd come around, tell me he loved me, what a perfect match we were, then he was gone. you get the idea. well, on April 15 (i remember the date because i was in Boston to run the marathon) he changed his profile picture to him and a brunette. he called me and said she was just a friend. just someone you go to with stuff. after the bombings, he called me and said how it made him think how much he loves me, etc. but the minute i start to say that kind of stuff back, he goes silent. no returned texts or emails. so time marches on. he is dating this girl, we are not in touch. then he texts me that he loves me. over the following week, he sends me a series of texts begging me to go away with him for the weekend to "have sex and do kinky shit" around the same time, i found out from the OB that i had cervical cancer which came from HPV. i had been married for 16 years. my narc was the only man i had been with without protection in 17 years. it had to be him. i emailed him to tell him. he told me i was a liar. i was furious. i emailed his girlfriend. i told her about the HPV, i told her about the narcissistic personality disorder and i forwarded the texts where he says he loves me and wants to go away for the weekend. immature, i know. HER RESPONSE WAS THE LAST THING IN THE WORLD I EXPECTED. within days, she emailed me and said she tested negative for HPV so i was obviously lying and should stop trying to create drama (the girl is a lawyer and she cant do a simple google search to find out the incubation period for HPV is weeks to years????) As far as the other stuff, she said that she doesnt need my help or advice. we cope differently. when relationships end, she simply picks up and moves on. she does not wallow in it for a year or allow herself to be made a victim for a year (GUESS WHO SHE IS TALKING ABOUT THERE?) Then she says something about being far younger than me and having such greater perspective. (she is 27. i am 40. narc is 30)

here is my question: can she really be immune to all of his narc bullshit? is it possible he isn't doing it to her as badly as he did it to me? my greatest fear is always that i drove him away with my neediness and we could have otherwise had a great thing. i know this is directly tied to my inner child work - i was emotionally abandoned by mom and dad practically at birth...but especially dad. set me up for love addiction too. so i am worst case scenario for dealing with a narc. and along comes little miss 27 year old smug to tell me how she won't be a victim and wallow in it like me. can some women just do that?

SORRY ITS SO LONG. I CAN'T BELIEVE I AM HURTING THIS MUCH AGAIN. I KNOW. NO CONTACT. CONTACT CAUSES PAIN. EVERY SINGLE GODDAMN TIME.

Sep 21 - 12PM
talktothehand
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Immune?

Sep 21 - 10AM
lessonlearned
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well he sounds like a real prize

Sep 21 - 4AM
RedMist
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The short answer is No... We

Sep 20 - 10PM
MyTurnToBe Free
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Young