For anyone feeling a little lost and lonely - a friends tale

I spent the evening last night with an ex colleague and friend of mine and as its been a while we had a couple of drinks and a catch-up and sadly I heard and saw some all too familiar occurrences that I thought I'd share here..

She's been married approx 20 years to a non-perfect but steady man but, as is the case in many marriages, the passion and excitement gave way for routine and predictability. They've had separate rooms for a year and during this year my decent, honest friend has been swept off her feet by a man 15 years younger who's smooth talking and declarations of undying love have her convinced that its time to walk away from her marriage and go live happily ever after with super-stud...they have also gone into business together 6 months ago (perfect affair cover eh).. This younger man lived with another ex-colleague of mine (small world in this industry) for 7 years or so and cheated (according to her) prolifically. She was also almost 20 years older than him and a strong character or so it appears externally.

So last night when her husband came in from his evening out, there was an unmistakable atmosphere and this morning I witness her making an excuse to go into the office later today to do something urgent. Hubby accepts it but this is no way to live.. Deceit hurts the deceiver as much I could tell.. Also last night we caught up on several other former colleagues including the one who left his wife when she was pregnant, married again last month and is now exploiting the vulnerable 18 year old who just wants to be loved following growing up with addicts for parents.. Then the close friend of my friend who's husband had just been charged with assault on his wife due to an incident a few weeks ago. Then the tale of her best friend who caught husband at another womans place but is now believing its all innocent and burying head in sand.... then some more....Drama drama drama.. Made me despair for humanity listening to it all!!!!

So after observing and listening I've arrived home this morning to my empty place, a little sad that people hurt people and the widespread deceit etc but also grateful that I am not immersed in any of that kind of crap anymore. That's not the behaviour of happy people. So I'm about to go to my favourite beauty spot now.. Look over the water, watch the ducks and geese and thank God that I have reached this place in my life whereby I have some peace. And long may it continue!

So those pangs of loneliness you may feel are surely much more preferable than living in constant chaos and upset, no? Keep at it.. Don't give in to the hurt because once its gone you'll never go back to it. You'll see clearly what it's doing to others and you'll never let it happen to you again!!

Have a good day, all.