Anybody elses N use "we" when he really meant "you"?
Anybody elses N use "we" when he really meant "you"?
From Wikipedia:
The patronizing "we"
The patronizing we is used sometimes in place of "you" to address a second party, hinting a facetious assurance that the one asked is not alone in his situation, that "I am with you, we are in this together".
My N ALWAYS used the royal "we" when he was asking if I'd completed some task that he didn't want to do himself. It always annoyed me, but I could never quite put my finger on why until now.
First of all, I think it represented his lack of seeing me as a separate entity from him - I was just his peon to do his bidding.
Second of all, I think it was his way of trying to make me feel like we were a team - rather than recognizing that I was doing all the dirty work while he reaped all the benefits.
But as the definition of the patronizing we points out, there is an element of facetiousness or a feeling of duping the other person involved too - it was his way of letting me know just who was in charge.
I'm curious if anyone else experienced this with their N?
Depends on the Narc
"WE"
Oh yes. Xnh constantly used
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