Any unexpected byproducts of NC?
Any unexpected byproducts of NC?
I wanted to first thank you all for teaching me about NC. LOL One would think this would be obvious...you're being treated poorly, you should stop contacting or responding to that person. But, it wasn't that obvious to me. :=( Not until coming here. Learning about this disorder...did I realize I could exercise such an option. And while it's not an easy thing to do at the beginning, if you stick with it ...it can be so very rewarding.
Today, I was thinking of some byproducts of NC. For me? I realized that NC hasn't only stopped the dysfunction and chaos and pain that I was going through by having daily contact with the narc. But, it has caused me to not seek his approval anymore. It has caused me to pause, reflect on that, and wish to change this about myself for this new year. By going NC, I turned off the spicket so to speak. I have always struggled most of my life, with needing male approval. Largely stemming from a messed up childhood. I didn't think I still struggled, but here I was...still seeking approval from yet...ANOTHER narc. Who when they sense you are seeking it, only make the games worse for you.
So, I'm happy to say...that not only has the mistreatment been shut off, due to NC...But, I took away the obstacle to my healing from needing male approval. In a way, I'm happy for the experience I had with this narc, as it showed me that I still had a problem. Sometimes, our problems are revealed through bad circumstances, like this one. I'm grateful things ended, so that I didn't go too far with this guy, only to end up hurt and dejected.
Just wanted to share with you all. Thanks for being so supportive to me these past few weeks. I am in awe of you all...and this site. I thought I'd open this thread to hear if you have experienced or are experiencing any byproducts of going NC?
When others help in the NC
susan
I wonder what happened...
susan
He would try to contact me
katie...lol
The best part of ***NC*** is
Katie
One year and three months. I
One year and three months. I
One year and three months.
katie
Don't know why my reply
Hiya Deidre99, I'm so glad to hear that NC has helped you turn
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onwithmylife - oh my! Snap!! My exN moved to another state,
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Hiya Deidre99 - it really IS relief isn't it? And it does feel
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deidre99...NC
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