Another pearl of wisdom from Goldie's blog
Another pearl of wisdom from Goldie's blog
In Goldie's blog on contact, she offered this in her closing:
"Understand it and you will not want it anymore."
That line from her blog speaks volumes to me.
When you understand that a Narcissist has a personality disorder that cannot be "fixed",
When you understand that they are abusive, manipulative, intentionally dishonest and that everything they do is tied to their own gratification,
When you understand that you have been their target...not their wife, girlfriend, lover, etc...their target,
You will not want it anymore.
When you are ready to accept that NC is the only way to get the fog to lift,
When you are ready to accept that contact only prolongs their abuse of you and causes you pain,
When you are ready to accept that no amount of scholarly research that you might do on NPD will change the fact that they are permanently disordered and that the solution is still that you must permanently cut contact with them,
You will understand it.
If you understand it, you will not want it anymore.
If you understand it, you will be able to take the focus off of them, and put it back on you, where it belongs.
If you understand it, you will be able to give yourself the love, care and validation you were seeking from your abuser and were never going to get from them.
If you understand it, you will push the "stop" button on the unmerry-go-round, and step off of it.
If you are still wanting it, then you simply do not understand it yet.
dont know how to break the addiction
working on it
workingonit
This is amazing
nomoredenial
I wish I was a good writer like some of you are!!! : )
Layla
Thank you Empath
Thank you Goldie
This is all so very true.
Empath, WAY TO GO
onwithmylife
empath
Oh my gosh, ME TOO!!