another narcissist movie

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#1 Sep 26 - 4PM

terri

another narcissist movie

"Someone Like You" is yet another good movie about falling for a narcissist. Funny thing is, I had seen this movie before and never really got it. Until now. I could really relate to the experience of the woman (Ashley Judd) who's heart was broken by the narc (Greg Kinnear).

Just more proof that they're a major segment of the male population in this world.

Let's be careful out there ladies!

Terri

PS - Yes, I know there are women narcs as well.

#2 Sep 28 - 5PM

Susan32

"Greed is Good"

My boss this morning was gushing about the latest Wall Street movie. In the '80s original and the recent sequel with Shia LaBoeuf and Carey Mulligan (who was in the N movie "An Education"), Michael Douglas stars as the greedy Gordon Gekko whose motto is "Greed is good."

#3 Sep 27 - 9PM

kiwi10

jude law

no wonder i am so warm for his form, DAMNIT. have you guys seen 'closer'?

#4 Sep 27 - 4PM

ShaynasMommy

Jude Law,

is really good at playing N's, because he most likely IS one. In life, he's quite the womanizer, in his last marriage, he screwed the babysitter.

#5 Sep 27 - 4PM

Meadowbrook

Vanilla Sky

We all know Tom Cruise is a big N in real life. But I liked him in "Vanilla Sky" which I've come to believe is about an N. For instance, the Tom Cruise character has this beautiful girlfriend, Cameron Diaz, who he uses for sex. She's clearly in love with him. But he continues to search for "ideal love" which he believes he found with Penelope Cruz even though he only knew her one night. The "used" GF ends up purposely crashing the car she and TC are in because she's so devastated by his treatment of her. She dies and he is scarred for life. He even ends up wearing a mask to cover up his disfigured face. I need to watch it again now to see if there are other parallels....

#6 Sep 27 - 4PM (Reply to #30)

Susan32

Open Your Eyes

The Spanish original, "Abre Tus Ojos (Open Your Eyes)" was on HULU for awhile. It stars Penelope Cruz as well (she basically reprised her role) It's all about the escape from reality. Tom Cruise is offered immortality and eternal youth... but it's in a dream state.

#7 Sep 27 - 4PM (Reply to #31)

Meadowbrook

Oh yes, now I remember she

Oh yes, now I remember she starred in both. Looks like I'll have a few new movies to add to my Netflix queue....

#8 Sep 27 - 2PM

Susan32

An Education

In "An Education",Peter Sarsgaard stars as the con man, David. He seduces a teenaged girl (Carey Mulligan) They have a whirlwind romance in Paris, she loses her virginity to him, and he proposes to her.... Only for her to find out that he already has a wife and a 4 year old son. I could identify with Mulligan's character, especially when she runs into the wife she didn't know existed... just as when I met the fiancee from LA.

#9 Sep 27 - 4PM (Reply to #24)

girlfriday

An Education

The irony is that my exN/P took me to see that movie. A movie about a Jewish con artist living a double life and a lie. That describes my ex. We watched it together while I was clueless that he had a long-term "committed" relationship already. But he knew what he was doing. Twisted. I think he took me to see it on purpose for his twisted pleasure. In the end, I really did get an Education. Worst Narc/Psychopath movie to me (that is not a slasher) is "In the Company of Men." Talk about ZERO remorse or conscience. It's chilling.

#10 Sep 28 - 6PM (Reply to #27)

Susan32

Shakespeare in Love

The ex-Psych professor's favorite movie was "Shakespeare in Love" starring Joseph Fiennes as the Bard and Gwyneth Paltrow as his love interest.... the next year he taught a class on the Sonnets, surprise, surprise. He saw the both of us as having a doomed, inappropriate, and forbidden love. In "Shakespeare in Love",Paltrow's character is engaged to a man she doesn't love,and has a love affair with the married Shakespeare (I don't know if Paltrow's character knows the Bard's marital status-is she ignorant of his wife's existence as I was of the OW's????) Paltrow's character inspires the Bard to write the character of Viola/Cesario for "Twelfth Night." Paltrow's character dresses up as a boy so she can act. She also heals the Bard of his writer's block AND impotence! I remember telling the ex-P that it was NOT real love because the both of them were lying.... Shakespeare was humiliating his wife by cheating on her, and Paltrow's character was openly betraying her fiance. Of course, the ex-P was INSPIRED, in a perverse way. Just as Shakespeare knows that Paltrow's character is engaged to a man she doesn't love, the ex-P thought he was my One True Love while I was dating men I didn't love. Just as Shakespeare goes for a woman who dresses a boy, the ex-P liked it when I was tomboyish... jeans were fine, but dresses, no way. (But Shakespeare doesn't call Paltrow's character a slut because she wore dresses!!!) Ugh, I'll NEVER see "Shakespeare in Love"... besides, I've heard it's one of the Least Deserving Oscar winners... What was also BIZARRE was that the ex-P was VERY defensive about Gwyneth Paltrow movies. He was ashamed of watching them, and got defensive about how he was NOT a fan. Sheesh, at least Out and Proud gay men are HONEST about being Friends of Dorothy and worshipping Judy Garland/Lady GaGa/Britney Spears/Kylie Minogue(!!!)

#11 Sep 29 - 5PM (Reply to #28)

better off

No, Gwyneth does NOT know

No, Gwyneth does NOT know Will is married, and she is rightly devastated when she finds out. She says something like "I gave away the prize for nothing..." The last time I saw that movie (and I liked it, I wouldnt' let the idiot exP keep you away from it), I didn't know the ex was a narc yet... and I cried, because despite their true love, she had to fulfill her duty with the man she had to marry (it was an arranged marriage.. and the guy of course was a big arrogant fop who didn't love her either, since love had nothing to do with it), and they went their separate ways, and he had written one of the greatest love stories of all time because of her... Romeo and Juliet. Except when you think about it, Romeo and Juliet is stupid. Way to go R&J! You're both dead. lol Don't think I want to see it again any time soon.

#12 Sep 28 - 5PM (Reply to #25)

Susan32

Female Narcs in "committed" relationships

In "Up in the Air",George Clooney stars as a man who travels the country firing people. He meets Vera Farmigia and they have a romantic relationship. It's the closest he's ever felt with a woman, with another person. He's emotionally intimate with her. In the end, Clooney finds out that Farmigia has a husband and children. As she goes to join her family for her dinner, she basically tells him he was her diversion. Clooney is devastated. In the 7th season opening of "The Office", Michael Scott (Steve Carell) is dating Donna. He brags about how much sex he enjoys with her, how they spend long passionate weekends together. However, he's afraid that she's cheating on him. Pam (Jenna Fischer) finds Donna's Facebook page, in which Donna is kissing another man. Donna reveals to Michael that the man... is her husband. Stunned, Michael says "That means I'm the mistress?"

#13 Sep 29 - 6PM (Reply to #26)

kiwi10

imagine...

devastating george clooney... sigh...

#14 Sep 27 - 2PM

tica

Narc character

Watched "The Good Girl" last night with Jennifer Anniston and forgot the guy characters name, but in it, they live and work in a small town and she winds up having an affair with him even though she is married..at one point she realizes and says that she sees this guy as "somewhere in between a child and a demon" won't tell you the story, but it got me thinking that the XN was just that...somewhere in between.. again with me , he is always so hard to categorize, always between the lines, alot of gray area and very secretive. oh well, enough time spent thinking about that!

#15 Sep 27 - 2PM

Meadowbrook

Closer

I just watched "Closer" and realized Jude Law's character is a total N. He D&D'd his girlfriend (Natalie Portman) for a married woman he stole (Julia Roberts). Once Julia Roberts' husband wins her back, Jude Law goes back to his old girlfriend professing his undying love. The dialogue was so perfect I wrote it down: Narc - I love you Girlfriend - Where? Narc - What? GF - Show me. Where is this love? I can't see it. I can't touch it. I can't feel it. I can hear it. I can hear some words. But I can't do anything with your easy words. Whatever you say, it's too late. Narc - Don't do this! GF - It's done She leaves him behind forever with no way of even contacting her because he never even knew her real name. How's that for NC?

#16 Sep 28 - 8PM (Reply to #20)

almostlydia

Meadowbrook

Was thinking about this movie recently too. It has an amazing song attached. I especially appreciate the end, 'can't take my mind off of you............till I find somebody new.' http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5YXVMCHG-Nk almostlydia

almostlydia

#17 Sep 29 - 10AM (Reply to #21)

Meadowbrook

The Blower's Daughter

Ah yes, I'm very familiar with that song. The N used it on me! How's that for irony. I notice in the movie you don't hear that last little line "till I find somebody new". The N was the one who pointed that last line out to me. They are such mindf-ers!!!

#18 Sep 27 - 9PM (Reply to #19)

kiwi10

'why do you want her? is it

'why do you want her? is it because she is sucsessful?' 'no, it's because she doesn't need me.' fucker.

#19 Sep 27 - 2PM (Reply to #14)

better off

My husband watched that on

My husband watched that on TV recently (why I don't know, lol), and he was going on and on about Jude Law's character and what a pussy he was, and that VERY SCENE about how she's like, WHAT LOVE? It's just words. We had a very interesting conversation about it. Funny.

#20 Sep 27 - 9PM (Reply to #16)

kiwi10

does your husband have a

does your husband have a younger brother, by any chance?

#21 Sep 28 - 10AM (Reply to #17)

better off

LOL... this is a recent

LOL... this is a recent development that my husband could have this sort of conversation. I think he's begun to find these "feelings" I speak of intriguing. haha. We have spent six months never discussing anything but what he thinks we should have for dinner... obsessively.

#22 Sep 28 - 10AM (Reply to #18)

kiwi10

hahahaha have you guy ever

hahahaha have you guy ever een 'the seretary'? S&M narc movie.... like porn for us. lol

#23 Sep 27 - 3PM (Reply to #15)

Meadowbrook

DId he like the scene where

DId he like the scene where Julia Roberts' husband tells Jude Law how it is? That was pretty good too. I had seen that movie once before but today I "got it".

#24 Sep 27 - 2PM (Reply to #7)

Susan32

Heartless

Jude Law's character in "Repo Men" is a Narc as well. He's literally heartless, as he hunts down people to get their organs when they're behind on their payments. He D&D's his mousy wife (who tells him to take up another job), lacks connection with his son, and basically dumps his wife for a night club singer. There's one scene in which he has an external mechanical heart... basically because he doesn't have one. How fitting.

#25 Sep 27 - 2PM (Reply to #8)

Meadowbrook

Jude Law

I'll have to watch Repo Man. Hey, isn't that movie "Alfie" with Jude Law supposed to be about a narc too? Hmm. I'm starting to see a pattern here.

#26 Sep 27 - 2PM (Reply to #9)

Susan32

Alfie

The Alfie character in the Michael Caine original as well as the Jude Law remake is incredibly narcissistic. He pressures a girlfriend into an abortion. In the end, he watches as the girl who left him gets happily married in a church&her child baptized... and he's on the outside, looking in. In "AI",Jude Law stars as a robotic male prostitute! The ex-P compared himself to a male prostitute, my classmates thought he was a robot... okay, that works.

#27 Sep 29 - 11AM (Reply to #13)

helldweller

Alfie . . . .

is totally my narc. When his babysitter and I were "friends" she told me he called her in tears the day his ex girlfriend married someone else, and then again when she had a baby, neither of which he could do after four years. Sound familiar? of course, you already know that he told me to abort our baby becuase there "wasn't enough room in the house" now that his foster child was there. You really can't make it up.

#28 Sep 27 - 2PM (Reply to #10)

better off

Hey, Jude Law plays a

Hey, Jude Law plays a narcissist in The Talented Mr Ripley. lol But I tell you what, he's brilliant in that film. He's a rich, spoiled narc who showers people with attention and they feel special and then he ignores them in favor of someone else, very entitled rich young man. Great scene where he's talking to Matt Damon, who starts to say something about himself, and Jude Law just instantly changes the conversation because he cannot bear to even hear another person speak about anything but him. But he's just the narc, and a bad one, but Matt Damon plays the utter psychopath, Mr Ripley. Great movie.

#29 Sep 27 - 4PM (Reply to #12)

Susan32

Narc boss' favorite movie

My former Narc boss looooved "Talented Mr. Ripley" as well as its sequel starring John Malkovich. He was always urging me to watch it. He was also openly gay, and the sight of Jude Law shirtless probably helped.

#30 Sep 27 - 4PM (Reply to #11)

Meadowbrook

Talented Mr. Ripley

That IS a great movie. Very underrated IMHO. But I need to watch it again now that I'm clued in. Remember his treatment of the pregnant girl? He was rich but wouldn't lend money to her so she, disgraced and despondent, committed suicide. Sam V reviewed it: http://samvak.tripod.com/talent.html

#31 Sep 26 - 7PM

betty2020

Havent seen it but i will

Havent seen it but i will check it out. I watched 500 days of summer last night and couldn't help seeing the Narc correlation in the lead female role. My 16 year old son asked me if i thought she was a narcissist. I laughed my ass of and said "your a smart boy!" Im still laughing today :) God Im so lucky to have that kid!!! only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

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