Another N comes out from the past

Maybe he is not a N but so far my gut is saying that he is.

This is now the 3rd (#3) old boyfriend that has contacted me in the last few months from my dating past on FB to tell me basically the same things the N said to me.

I can't believe this! I feel like I have been in the " EX Boyfriend twilight zone " or something.

I recieved a FB message from an old highschool boyfriend last friday. WE dated all of five mintues and broke up peacefully. I always thought he was a good guy and he treated me well back then, but it was high school and a long time ago.

I accepted his friend request then he wrote me a brief email "we need to talk. call me." and listed his number. I was curious, what did we need to talk about? it's been more than 20 years.

I called him last night to say hello after checking out his FB page and seeing photos of him and his wife on his page. He starts off the conversation so much the same way the N spoke to me - it was surreal.

"Momoya I have been looking for you for years!! I am so happy you called me! I have searched for you and I would randomly google your name from time to time and I am so happy to of found you on FB. ARe you single?"

I said "why does it matter if I am single? you are Married right!?"

he replied " oh, yea but ya know she is more my FINANCIAL life partner than my LOVE life partner if you know what I mean."

No not really I told him.

So are you single he wanted to know. I again said I didn't feel it MATTERED and he said he didn't want to insult "the guy I was seeing". Uh, ok sure.

He wanted to talk about the old days, wanted to know why we broke up? uh, because we were in HIGHSCOOL?! he said that he KNOWS that if it had not been for 'another guy' that I would of dated him for years. Oh, Really? Idealization anyone? He tried to go into how his feelings for me have not changed and it was all too obvious where this was going.

I ended the conversation and got off the phone.

It is really this easy to call people up from your past and convince them they are the one for you?? It MUST BE! ;0

Man, I must of made it easy for the N when he contacted me... I believed everything he said like the big whopper " I am divorced" .

If I had stayed on the line with this EX and given him more of my time he would of spun a tail of love and attraction to me that has "lasted for nearly 20 years" most of the things he said were nearly all the same words the N used on me months prior.

I just can't believe this. This is the 3rd old boyfriend since the N contacted me 7 months ago. How strange? or maybe not strange at all appartently it's prety common.

I feel like God/Univserse it telling me something. I am NOT the fall back girl to these Ex's!

I am now the wiser.

As I was trying going to sleep last night I was thinking of the N and of this guy calling me and how similar there statments were - they both professed this love and attraction that spanned 2 decades for me. He is a married man contacting a woman from his past and so was the N. I saw a picture of his wife on his FB page, she is a good looking woman and appears to be a good wife in all the photos, basically they appear 'happy' to me. But looks can be decieving. UGH!! I wonder if his wife knows that he refers to her as a 'financial life partner'? what a freaking joke these guys are.