Am I in a narcissistic relationship?
Jame and I have been together almost 2 years. Well, somewhat together. We have broken up 5 times and we get back together after about 2 months. He is so wonderful to my girls. They love him just like he is their father. It always starts out and ends the same. A wonderful beginning and by the end of 2 -4 months he's distancing himself. Throughout the time we're together he is constantly throwing my past in my face. And believe me, even with the mistakes I've made I couldn't hold a candle to the crude things he's done. He has a really shady past with women. I am turning 42 and he will turn 52. I have often described him as bipolar. And when I talk to my friends that is the same way they describe him. He is wonderful one minute and the next he is calling me everything from a whore to a couple of names that make me blush.
I know you ask why I think he isn't the same shady man he used to be. Well, he keeps telling me he is at an age he is ready to have a family. And I believe him. I really believe he wants to be a family with us. However, when he starts looking at commitment he gets scared that someone will do him the way he has always done. I am the only relaionship he has had that he has really stuck with. He swears he'll never let me go and he wants to marry me. His family loves me. He's never taken anybody else to meet them or let anybody else spend time with his daughter and grandkids. I am the only woman that is not with him for what he can do for me. I am an attractive, education lady with a good job with the potential to advance. I do struggle but I have managed on my own and am raising two wonderful girls. He has had some minor health issues that make him realize his age. He knows he's getting older and he's no spring chicken. I think his past makes him think I am going to up and mess around on him or take him for granted. And I am so in love with this man. How do I deal with this. I am a confident person. If you ask my friends they would tell you they can't believe I put up with the mess I put up with. Is there hope for a relaitonship with him?
you are the "only"
Probably not bipolar, definitely a Narc
You need to end it. Cold
definitely a narc blowing hot
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