Am I being paranoid?...what do you think about this?

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#1 Feb 28 - 7PM
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Am I being paranoid?...what do you think about this?

Ok, I have been trying really hard to get over the past year and everything that I went through with the N.

It was upsetting, Very upsetting when he left and went back to Italy without a goodbye last summer.

Tried to forget him, then after a couple of months he tried to call me a few times on viber-which I missed. After which I asked him why and he said he called because he wanted to hear my voice...
Oh and that was immediately after he was telling me he was in love with someone in Italy, but she doesn't want him!

Anyway time passes and I don't hear from him. And I get use to it.

Go on holiday, and as soon as I reach my hotel out of no where he fb messages me saying he is "sorry" and that he is coming back to UK.....

Then begs for somewhere to stay while he finds his feet.

Obviously I say no (im not THAT deluded)

Anyway, he comes back to UK and I see him out.....and he ignores me while all over some girl he started "hanging out" with after he gave me the last brush off before he left.

That's when I deleted him off facebook, I think that was in early January this year.

NOW, the past few weeks have been very weird......

It started on one night a few weeks ago when I saw him and his friend (who is also now my friend) out at our regular place.
Now this is a big place, and they never normally hang out on the side I do, but when I get there, they are in the spot where I ALWAYS am!

So I meet my friends there anyway, ad completely ignore him and his (my) friend...to the point my friend came over to say hello cos he was pissed I ignored him....I told him he knows why I did (sigh)

Then a few minutes later N comes over!...first just standing with our friend between us, not saying anything. Then they start speaking in Italian, but TWICE I catch him saying loudly where he lives in English....And I noticed it more because I thought to myself "hang on, that's quite close to me....)

Then our friend moves, and we are next to each other!

He acts so quiet and unsure of himself for a while (I can hear his brain ticking over)
Then all of a sudden he's facing me asking if he can greet me hello?!

and he holds my hand!....Im shocked, my friends are shocked....anyway I told him ok (cos I didn't want to make a scene)

Then he asks me for a dance! I say no cos the song was too fast....then he starts trying to make conversation as though we are just old flames who haven't seen each other for a long time :-(

Then he says he's going to make a song request, I think he said he'll be back but I cant remember.
Anyway, a few minutes later a song comes on and im pretty sure it was the one he requested because we both like it, so I start dancing with someone....and then I see him come back.....and then walk away when he sees me dancing with someone else!

Anyway, I saw him again on Friday somewhere else.....and again he comes up to me out of nowhere and hugs me and gives me the two kisses on the cheeks, tries to dance with me again but I didn't because I didn't like the song.

Anyway a couple of hours later he gets ready to go home as it was late....and he tells me EXACLTY where he lives.....it turns out he now lives literally ROUND THE CORNER FROM ME.....Like its actually on the same stretch of road....maybe 3 minutes walk!

I asked him "why do you have to live so close to me?" we live in a big city....and he says "Because I wanted to be closer to you" In a joking sort of way....

I was speaking to a friend yesterday (a guy) and he was saying he doesn't trust that it was just a coincidence, and that its very easy for people to find out where someone lives

And now im thinking, all the times ive spoken to him on fb.....and it has shown my location because I forget to turn it off!

Literally you can click on the map and it will show you the road which the person you are speaking to is on!

Am I being paranoid?

And another thing, I asked him if he noticed I got rid of him on facebook? his reaction was-no, when did u do that?

Do you think he was being genuine?

This is just resurfacing a lot of crap Im trying to get rid of :(

Im sorry this turned out longer than I wanted....

Mar 1 - 12PM
shock and awe.some
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Dear n3

Mar 1 - 11AM
Hunter
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Idealize, devalue,discard,

Mar 1 - 9AM
lessonlearned
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What everyone else said

Mar 1 - 11AM (Reply to #7)
shock and awe.some
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LL

Mar 1 - 7AM
ItsFinallytime
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Unless you want to be right

Mar 1 - 12AM
NoMoreFreakBoy
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Hmmmmm

Mar 1 - 12AM
DiscoveringDeb
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Paranoid or hoping?

Feb 28 - 8PM
Willow
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You asked for opinions, so

Mar 1 - 1AM (Reply to #2)
Epiphany2014
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Opinions of a newbie