Is there something good to take forward?

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#1 Aug 18 - 2PM
omgalso
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Is there something good to take forward?

In the past when relationships have ended I've found something good in them to take forward as a learning so that I can be better in the future and gain perspective on the last one. (never a previous narc) With the narc, which is done x months now w N/C, I find nothing good to take forward. For example, the good times and fun ie some of the things that we did and saw and attended become only losses to mourn. Of course the relationship that I thought I had which was fake is as you know complex to mourn and move forward.
With these narc relationships do we have nothing but how to recognize them in the future to avoid others? How do we think of the relationship without feeling that we wasted time, energy and love and hence, at least for me, feel like a dweeb for not seeing it sooner (even though he's a covert narc)?
Does anyone have anything that is a positive from the experience to enhance future relationships?
(the only exception to this is of course children which no matter the seed from which they arrive are precious)

Aug 19 - 3PM
Thetruthwillset...
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Yes

Aug 18 - 7PM
ItsFinallytime
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At the end of the day, truly