Not sure how to feel.

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#1 Oct 1 - 9AM
txgrl423
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Not sure how to feel.

I have been in a 6 year relationship with a narcissistic man. In the past few weeks things have gone from one extreme to another. I am not sure how to feel about everything that is happening right now. My emotions are very conflicted. Any advice is appreciated. To give some background. This man does not live with me and his job doesn't provide him with enough income so I end up being his other form of income. ( One thing i learned very early is that he likes to take over things that don't belong to him and makes them his) A few weeks ago him and his exwife decided that his oldest son just out of high school should come and live with him. He tells me that this is going to happen. I am never asked how I feel about it or anything. All of a sudden I am being bullied into having to provide better housing, a car (he doesn't have one I am his taxi), new clothing and cellphone service and phone for his son all in less than a weeks time. His son arrives and now I am to be at the beckon call of both of them. Now.. at this point I am feeling overwhelmed and worthless since I am not being a good provider. Now starts the fun..since the arrival of his son the narc now starts to lay into me more and more about what he wants for himself and his son. He also starts overall watching everything I do. I make the mistake of not calling him on day on my way home from work. I am automatically cheating on him. For the past two weeks I have had to defend myself regarding cheating. He breaks up with me then pulls me back in. I finally put my foot down and broke up with him after going through this cheating/your seeing someone else cycle. If feel exhausted at this point. He keeps going on and on about not giving him a chance to change and how I am throwing away 6 years and many more great years. I am just tired of being the doormat here. I am so on the fence right now. I know that looking back the 6 years have not been great. They have been awful! Him and his exwife have used me for everything I have. I am not in a good place financially because of him. I just have so many emotions running through me right now.

Oct 2 - 12PM
Lookforward
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It's called bullying and

Oct 1 - 6PM
omgalso
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Listen to YOU