Alcohol and remaining NC

Many PD's are also addicts. They mask their dysfunction with porno, alcohol, drugs, ect...

When you are dealing with an addict it only adds to the mix of insanity and trying to make sense of what just hit you.

There is no sense with a PD and there is even less sense with an actively addicted PD.

When in the thoes of abuse it is not uncommon for the receiver of abuse "the victim" to also turn to alcohol and other substances. This is a time when many begin to self medicate. Some begin this while still with the PD and other's turn to "relief" when the PD is gone and the cognitive dissonance sets in and the pain begins to feel over whelming at times.

This is a natural response to pain. It is important to note that alcohol and drugs are depressants and will only prolong the pain and agony left by the wreckage of the PD.

Also substances lower your defenses considerably and make it more difficult to remain NC. How many times have you had a "few" and called or texted the PD. Or been half in the bag when the PD calls or "drops by" and you say come on over or come on it.

Just some more food for thought.

If you are serious about NC and finding that substances are keeping you "stuck" and "hooked" you may want to consider alternatives. A doctor can prescribe a temporary "aid", journaling, and physical activity also helps many to get out the tensions and head trips which keep the PD alive and kicking in your psyche.

While alcohol and recreational drugs may feel like they are helping you, in the long run they are known to keep you in a depressive state and make it all the more difficult to do the inner work and begin the letting go process.

God bless,
Goldie