agnesmurphy17 (and others)...is he a P?
agnesmurphy17 (and others)...is he a P?
...why would they leave when there is no other woman? How do they decide that you are no longer giving them enough supply? Could it be that they are a psychopath not an N?
agnesmurphy17 in particular, your reply to my post of my ex-husband leaving me (5 months ago after 5 years of marriage) on the street, as well as your response regarding his likelihood of being a psycopath, have really made me think a lot.
So, I have been reading and re-reading many of the posts here to see if he is just an N or something more. The thing is that almost everyone mentions cheating or another woman.
Mine lied for sure to others (laying the trap for a year by telling people all sorts of things, including that I did not want to have a baby and hated children.....all this when we had JUST been to the doctor to confirm that I was pregnant; I later miscarried just after he left, and he could not be bothered to contact me even once!). He always told me how much he loved kids and wanted them with me, and just wanted them to love and be loved by him???
After he left I confronted him saying that I did not understand how he could lie to people about this as well as other stories about me hating his family (so not true! his mother is an N and hates me, but I am really close to others in his family and was always kind to her); about me being completely career focused, and never wanting to quit my amazing, highly-regarded job (yes, I worked hard, but no more than him. also, I promised him that I would quit my job by the end of last year and did so, deciding to look for a job that required less hours so I could focus on us). Can you believe he said "well, I'll give you the baby part. But the rest of what you have said is lies"?? He is still lying, saying that I am stalking him (all I have done is tried to call him, and he ignores them). This is someone who called me 10 times a day when we were together. Completely mind-numbing. I thought I was going crazy. I tried to talk to him but it kept going around in circles! He just looked blank and said "you did not make me happy". This is a man who told me every morning that he was the happiest person alive and, while holding me at night, that I was the best thing in his life.
So, back to the original point of this post.
1) have others sensed that this is worse than narcissism, and that their ex could be really dangerous (without ever having laid a hand on them, but just got a feeling that there was something darker in their that the ex could not express?
2) did any of your exes leave without their being another supply source (actually, in this case, I think his supply was a new, very senior job that I helped him get) but not a woman
3) have any of yours "hibernated" before moving on to the next perfect woman. This is what he did before meeting me--hibernated for a year and then met someone who he was obsessed with but she dumped him after 2 weeks, as she got scared. Then I came along!
Leah2
agnesmurphy17
Yep!
hitandrun, susan32, girlfriday...
The blank look
The blank stare is
Ns and Ps
Differences between Narcs/Psychs
OMG YES!!!!!!
Leah
Nevergoback
NancyM
You don't love me enough
Nevergoback
Narcs and Psycopaths
Rings true
Thankyou, hitandrun...
It takes time