After 2 months of silence And biting my tongue

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#1 Dec 6 - 10AM
Blythebloo
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After 2 months of silence And biting my tongue

I told the narc off. He sends me this email like we are best buddies and how things were toxic between us. But he is in a very good place now and he notices how vibrant and enthusiastic I am when he picks up our daughter. I couldn't take it any longer gals and guys. I let it fly.

Here it is:

As I have said in the past I am only sticking to the guidelines.  You use Gisele to abuse me because that's all you have. I will not give you an opportunity anymore than I have to for you to bully me.  Gisele may like you now but she is not old enough to understand her father is a narcissist with a severe personality disorder and he uses people in his life as supply for his ego. Gisele as any other person in your life is an object to suit you and your selfish needs. Take me to court for more visitation and you will be slapped with a psychiatric evaluation. Gisele needs good people in her life and she has plenty. You are the only one in your court. Remember we are not friends and never will be. Your values don't match mine. Gisele will soon see your manipulative ways and the revolving door of women in your life. Best of luck for you are a legend in your own mind, an empty souless man with no emotional future. You let your mask slip and I  know who you really are. Don't try to butter me up with lame sentiments. No regrets here and I will always stick up for my daughter and so will her brothers, grandparents, uncles, and God. 

But evil people who pretend to be what they are not will become worse than ever, as they fool others and are fooled themselves.  2 Timothy 3:13

Evil people are proud and arrogant,
but sin is the only crop
they produce. Proverbs 21:4

Dec 6 - 9PM
Gravity
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Blythebloo

Proud of you :) I said something similar to mine the last time we spoke..it gave me peace of mind and closure knowing that I had ripped off his mask and he would never come back. Dont even give him the chance to respond or silent treatment you. Block his e-mail!! xoxoxo
Dec 6 - 11AM
Im_always_fine
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It feels SOOOO GOOOD to

It feels SOOOO GOOOD to counter the lies with truth...the darkness with light... Even if he thinks you are "just jealous and still want him" LOL.. He won't get it...but it's not about him anymore...it's about taking back YOUR power. The truth sets you free. Speak it...stand in it...trust it. The light shines in the darkness and the darkness apprehends it not.(but the light shines anyways)
Dec 6 - 10AM
Victim-no-more
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Wow, you and I think

Wow, you and I think alike....this is exactly the type of email I have sent at times myself.....i bet I have written at least 15 with a similar theme, bible verses and all lol. And ya know what? I may as well have sent them to santa clause.....nothing I said was ever acknowledged, discussed, anything. it still feels good to get it out though.
Dec 6 - 10AM (Reply to #11)
Blythebloo
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Oh the narc will reply but I

Oh the narc will reply but I blocked his email before I could read his sprewage of hate and lies. Felt good to get it out. He thinks he's super dad and mr wonderful and when he tries to remind mr that he is I tend to remind him back that he is not.
Dec 6 - 10AM
Hunter
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Well.. I can't say you were

Well.. I can't say you were wrong.. But it went in one ear and out the other... Silence will be your response... Don't let him get to you as he has now one notch in his belt with your email.. Look these idiots can't not follow through with anything.. They are stable for a while,then quickly get bored.. Let him have his way.. Document his very move and you will see failure.. Your words mean nothing to him.. Your words allow him to laugh at you..allow him to show others you are the crazy one.. But silence .. You can't do much with that .. Can you? Hunter
Dec 6 - 10AM
walking_on_sunshine
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I like this, it really makes

I like this, it really makes its point. (mother will protect child)
Dec 6 - 10AM
spinning
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Bly, I understand your need

to vent but I am most hopeful that you will no longer vent anything like this to him in writing again. Please just do not engage. Leave it between your attorneys and the courts. You will not "win" here in terms of telling him anything. Your words are lost on him and will be used as ammunition against you. Please do not engage in written communication with him except as it has to do with custody issues, period. And even that I would keep to an absolute minimum, i.e. yes and no responses. It's hard to be NC with a child, but please try to go as NC as possible and leave communication to a simple few sentences about pick up and drop off times. Leave the rest to your attorney and ignore him, please. I know you can do it! It's hard, but you must. It is the only way to frustrate him and beat him at his own game. Hugs to you, B. Most sincerely, (not) spinning. AND LONGING FOR THE DAY WHEN NO ONE WILL SPIN OVER THESE DISORDERED FREAKS

spinning

Dec 6 - 8PM (Reply to #2)
Redhead1
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I walked away from the narc

I walked away from the narc with my tail between my legs feeling like the biggest POS ever. I was so beat down after 20 years of his drama. I love these girls who smack the shit out of them before they go NC. Girl POWER! If I had a redo, I'd smacked his ass down to size and go NC.
Dec 7 - 1AM (Reply to #3)
meik11
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I have to agree with you on

I have to agree with you on some level. I know NC is the best thing to regain my sanity and move on with my life. However my biggest regret, only second to falling for him in the first place is my regret of not telling him exactly how i felt before I went NC. Although our words fall on death ears it truly made me feel like a coward not to say all I had figured out about him. I have been NC for 10 weeks now, and my biggest conflict with it is the constant need to get all of these thoughts and emotions off my chest. I have written letters that I would never mail and even composed text messages that have not sent, but it has not made feel better yet.
Dec 7 - 6PM (Reply to #7)
Redhead
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Good for you...

How empowering that must have felt!!!!!!!!!!!
Dec 7 - 6PM (Reply to #6)
Redhead
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Good for you...

How empowering that must have felt!!!!!!!!!! I'm glad you did this for you!!
Dec 7 - 6PM (Reply to #4)
Redhead
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Good for you...

How empowering that must have felt!!!!!!!!!! I'm glad you did this for you!!
Dec 7 - 6PM (Reply to #5)
Redhead
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Sorry

didn't mean to post three times...