Addicted to Narcissistic Supply

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#1 May 23 - 6PM
Elena
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Addicted to Narcissistic Supply

To follow my previous post, I thought it would be productive to discuss this subject separately.

"They are Addicted to Narcissistic Supply"

They really don't like to be without supply, they are addicts of it. So they will do whatever it takes to have an uninterrupted flow of supply at all times.

My ex-narcissist, has a long distance relationship with the woman he betrayed me with. Since he can't be without his narcissistic supply, during the separation/divorce process, he got a membership with match.com, even though he already has a relationship with the other woman. And even though we were still legally married. He obviously can't be without his supply. I guess he needs to be dating someone locally to keep the uninterrupted flow coming. On the morning of our divorce court day - photos came out in the local newspaper of him with 2 women in his arms, one on each arm, at an event, the biggest picture on the page. One of them was wearing a dress where you could pretty much see half of her breast. We were still legally married when this photo was taken.

I also saw bank transactions that took place at a nude strip club, the kind of place where men get "lap dances" with nude women, so he's interacting with the strip girls as well. I have a feeling this may have already been happening without me knowing during the course of the marriage as well.

The other woman has no clue of his behavior, as she is long distance, but he is for sure ensuring he has his uninterrupted flow of "supply" here locally in the meantime that he secures a marriage relationship with her.

This is who they are! They suck supply from whomever allows them to. They don't care about emotionally bonding with anyone, to have a meaningful relationship, because of their fear of abandonment. They get close enough to get supply, but not close enough to bond, as they dread and fear getting hurt if they happen to get abandoned. They are just interested in extracting what they want and need from whoever lets them. Pretty selfish and shallow pursuit.

My counselor told me - "Regarding the woman he betrayed you with and he wants to marry, he's not pursuing her because he is so madly in love with her, he is pursuing her because she is a "means to an end". This makes sense, because he always depended on me financially, well - guess what! The new woman he is chasing is a career woman who can provide financially. The cycle starts again!

May 23 - 10PM
Barbara (not verified)
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yes

Psycho-Boy's wife has her own business - pays all the bills. And allows him to do whatever he pleases. She doesn't believe he's seen hookers, preyed on women online, used phone sex lines. She believes his BS Not my problem. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ Free articles & information for abuse victims: http://abusesanctuary.blogspot.com Effective Coaching for Victims of Pathologicals http://one2one4victims.webs.com/
May 23 - 9PM
RenewD
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Means to an end

This is an excellent point and really grabbed me. I'd never thought of that before, but definitely makes sense! ~Denise~