actually i am not guilt free
actually i am not guilt free
I think for all the time I am with ex narcky, I am also guilty of the things I accused him of.
1. Push and Pull
He did that to me all the time, no doubt. Push me away when he feel "bored" and pull me in when he feels like it.
I am guilty of this as well but from a different motivation. I push him away when he hurts me (with OW, lies, uncaring attitude etc). Then later I missed him and pull him back. So he had a chance to project his disorder on me by saying I am the one who push and pull. And yes I does that too.
2. Silent Treatment
He does that to me and went off with OW all the time. I believe during those ST, he totally 100% forgotten about my existence.
I do it back to him when he hurts me, I want to hurt him back so I ignored him. He rarely crawls back it was me who crawled back to him. Sad but true fact.
3. Drama Making
For drama making I think I am crazier than narcky. When he did his passive aggressive attack. I went berserk! I would cry and all.
Sooo I also do engage in narcky behaviour deploying ST and push & pull to punish him back. Maybe I was as guilty? I dont know if its because its due to narcky making the craziness outa me OR I am also narcky myself. I even suspect its because there are strong narc traits in me that I managed to survive 3 solid years with him where his OW in his entire 50+ years of life did not make it pass the 3 months mark.
But I have feelings, real hurt and its not those as in "narc injury" type. I do genuinely care for others. I have long term friends and none of my ex BFs have called me crazy except narcky. Maybe I am a BPD? Do I need help myself?
Please help.
Thanks
Sumiko
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