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to talk with the children about him all the time, for you OR them. I don`t know how old they are, but it`s possibly an option to sit down with them as a family and develop some rules around your new situation. One would be, if they`re texting or phoning him, that they leave the room. Another would be to keep conversation about him to basic, practical matters. You could develop a password together so that if one of you spots that the others are talking about him more than is healthy, that one says the password and you all just stop. I also think it`s OK to tell them that anything that reminds you of him hurts you right now. Allow them to practice empathy and regard for your feelings (if they`re too young, YOU have to draw the boundaries of course. But smaller children are easily distracted by a change of topic: "let`s go have an ice" or "what shall we have for supper"). It`s very hard separating from a narc when children are involved. You have my sympathies. Keep going strong. Tigerlily

Sounds like the work, or encouragement of a 2nd party..............it won't last too long though. It's unfortunate for your children. Don't allow his contact with your children to get in your head too much. Remember, they like to push our buttons, and the children are tools to them to get to us. Don't give him that satisfaction. That will irk him more than anything.

His BS is getting to you.. Hes making progress with his mission !! MAKE HIM FAIL.. Never let him see you sweat.. Hunter