33 days NC!

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#1 Nov 28 - 10PM
Tiffany30
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33 days NC!

I am at 33 days NC now and very proud of myself. The last contact that I made to him was through email 33 days ago. In my email I told him that we play by my rules now on how he gets me his check he owes me every month. He was making excuses about how it was illegal putting things in other peoples mailboxes and also if he mailed it to me how would he know that I received it by the first. He was just making excuses so he could hand deliver it to me and talk about how wonderful his new life is now (barf). I even threatened to have it drawn out of his paycheck each month, haha. This email must have made him angry because this is what he replied back to me with "I am so glad you and your family (your dad) aren't in my life anymore. I am trying to surround myself with positive people now. YOU WILL NEVER KNOW THE TRUTH, I will let that eat at you for awhile".

I already know the truth that he is a lying, cheating, loser!

A few days later after the email he sent back that I didn't reply back to, he texted me and said my check was in the paper box, not the mailbox. I never replied back to that text either. Haven't heard anymore out of him so far and I hope it stays this way. Since I stood up for myselft against him will he stay away now?

Nov 29 - 10PM
Hunter
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Now you're talking.. Or not..

Now you're talking.. Or not.. This is good..Boundaries.. Hunter
Nov 30 - 4PM (Reply to #11)
Tiffany30
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Yes, Hunter.... Boundaries...

Yes, Hunter.... Boundaries...
Nov 29 - 8PM
Winter
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Tiffany

Congrats on 33 days! This is how you have chosen yourself! You are blessed to have such a good family also standing up for you.
Nov 29 - 9PM (Reply to #9)
Tiffany30
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Thank you, I am very thankful

Thank you, I am very thankful that my dad and brother look out for me. The N is angry because I didn't stand up against my family and take his side, but my family loves me and he doesn't know what love is.
Nov 29 - 8PM
Tiffany30
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My mom told me today that she

My mom told me today that she saw him yesterday at Taco Bell and he told her hello...
Nov 29 - 8AM
spinning
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Tiff, 33 days is awesome...

and I am very proud of you. I am glad you checked in to post this as I remember the money issue. As for whether or not he's going to "stay away for good" since you stood up for yourself...who cares? You know you are DONE. YOU ARE GOING TO STAY AWAY. HE WILL NEVER EVER HAVE ACCESS TO YOU OR ANYTHING THAT MATTERS TO YOU AGAIN. That's how you look at it. That's how you turn the tables. NC forever is your armor and your key to freedom and peace. I am so proud of you, Tiff. Thank you for sharing this inspirational post. Most sincerely, (not) spinning BECAUSE I'M NO CONTACT FOREVER!

spinning

Nov 29 - 8PM (Reply to #6)
Tiffany30
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Thanks so much...

Thanks so much...
Nov 29 - 5AM
Gaia
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Hello Tiffany

Congrats on NC for 33 days!!I am a little over that mark as well, YAY for us STRONG women :) I too, got one cold email from him over a month ago, I just told him to mail me my stuff, he said he would but NEVER did, and havent heard a peep out of him. NC from them is better, but does hurt to feel like we are not even worth a hoover, I am still struggling with that one. Stay strong sweetie ! ( HUGS)
Nov 29 - 8PM (Reply to #4)
Tiffany30
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Thank you!

This email was only one of many I have received from him in the last year or so. The asshole was actually planning on still living with me until we were divorced! Seriously??? This happened in Oct. 2010. He is Crazy! He went into a rage when my dad and brother locked him out of the house, and he actually called the police on me for locking him out! They said we would have to discuss it with our attorneys..but guess what, I had a good attorney and got the house:) He can't stand it now that I actually "won" something and is very angry about it still... I am staying strong and trying to live a drama free life now.
Nov 29 - 1AM
uk lady
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So pleased for you Tiffany

Same old game, just different day scenario. Stay with the programme and if the cheques don't arrive, get some legal advice. They only understand if you back your words up with action. Then they begin to accept that you mean business. Gone are the days when he could manipulate/influence you. Nasty email but it is what we have come to expect from his type? Dee x
Nov 28 - 11PM
Done sourcing
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Congrats on the 33 days nc. I

Congrats on the 33 days nc. I hope for you that he stays away. That is the best when getting over a narc. They do act and lie well sometimes, and it can be difficult to stay nc when they hoover. Keep up the good work! ds