Ending an affair

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#1 Feb 10 - 9PM
Ariel28
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Ending an affair

Ok, so I know I need the support group and one and one with Goldie,
So before I am inundated with suggestions to do that, I truly cannot afford it right now. My electricity is about to be turned off and I can't make my rent or car payment this month.

With that out of the way, I just wanted to be honest with myself and with the ladies here that I have been having a sexual relationship with my narc who is in a committed relationship with his live-in girlfriend. I know in my heart I want to end it and am
Trying to get the strength to do so. I was hoping maybe some of you would have suggestions on what a good way to do this would be. I admit a dark part of me feels satisfaction knowing that he doesn't truly love her and that he will never chance (hence the affair with me) but I know it's lot healthy for me and is setting me back. I'm not sure what to say to him to end it that would be affective. I cannot
Go completely NC with him because we have a child together that he sees once a week.

Please be easy on me. I know I'm not doing the right thing but am struggling with my self esteem and seeking attention and validation outside myself. I hope to be able to afford a session with my amazing therapist who is familiar with my situation and narcissism soon but I thought I would
Come here and see if I could get some help

Thank you! <3

Feb 13 - 12PM
Used
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Ariel

Feb 12 - 8AM
Hunter
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I really think that if you

Feb 11 - 2PM
Goldie
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How can we help?

Feb 11 - 2PM
truthnow
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Many here have tried to help you

Truthnow

Feb 12 - 11AM (Reply to #2)
Ariel28
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I wasn't trying to be snide

Feb 12 - 1PM (Reply to #6)
Hunter
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Sorry you feel this way., it

Feb 12 - 12PM (Reply to #3)
Lookforward
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Dear Ariel, I suppose the

Feb 12 - 2PM (Reply to #4)
Goldie
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Excellent lookforward.

Feb 13 - 5AM (Reply to #5)
Lookforward
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Thanks, Goldie!Come on,