Thinking of breaking No Contact, II...

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#1 Nov 20 - 10AM
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Thinking of breaking No Contact, II...

Here is the thought for the day about that, courtesy of Its Finally Time, who has committed to changing the script and re-creating a life without chaos, poor treatment and destruction.

Anyone thinking of breaking no contact to tell your abuser off, or to whine about your victim-hood, please read these EMPOWERING WORDS FIRST: (Thank you Its Finally...)

"Ugh. WHY would you want to give him the incredible gift of telling him how much he screwed you up?!?! That is Christmas, a trip to Disney and a visit from the tooth fairy all in one for a Narc. Why women think it's attractive or whatever to tell some douche bag how he screwed them is beyond me. You will look weak and pathetic. He does NOT give a shit and he will GLOAT about it. STOP.

Do NOT e-mail him, call him, text him or send a carrier pigeon or smoke signals. And STOP DRINKING until you're in a much, much, MUCH better place. Go to bed. Tomorrow is another day...."

Couldn't have said it better myself. This is the unvarnished TRUTH. The person who brought you here won't suddenly love you, feel badly, have regrets or run back into your arms if you lay out all your sacrifices for the "relationship..."

If you're done, YOUR SILENCE SAYS YOU'RE DONE.

Love,
(not) spinning

Nov 22 - 9AM
Phoenyx
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THANK YOU!

Nov 20 - 7PM
ItsFinallytime
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Thank you, Spinning. It was

Nov 20 - 12PM
Goldie
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BB it's simple really

Nov 20 - 2PM (Reply to #43)
BrokenBlonde
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I'm realizing

Nov 20 - 3PM (Reply to #44)
Goldie
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Exactly BB

Nov 20 - 1PM (Reply to #40)
spinning
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Yes, yes, yes, and here's

spinning

Nov 21 - 10AM (Reply to #42)
maya2012 (not verified)
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Thank you, (not) Spinning

Nov 20 - 2PM (Reply to #41)
BrokenBlonde
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Thank you for sharing,

Nov 20 - 11AM
BrokenBlonde
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I wish I had listened...

Nov 21 - 11PM (Reply to #37)
Dee30
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BB

Nov 22 - 11AM (Reply to #38)
BrokenBlonde
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Dee, is it amazing how they

Nov 21 - 1AM (Reply to #34)
FreeMe
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BB... I know it took courage to admit breaking NC

Nov 21 - 10AM (Reply to #35)
BrokenBlonde
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Thanks FreeMe..

Nov 21 - 10AM (Reply to #36)
Used
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bb

Nov 20 - 3PM (Reply to #33)
Hunter
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BB

Nov 20 - 1PM (Reply to #31)
lessonlearned
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truth

Nov 21 - 10AM (Reply to #32)
BrokenBlonde
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Lies..

Nov 20 - 12PM (Reply to #26)
Willow
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So much drama

Nov 20 - 12PM (Reply to #27)
BrokenBlonde
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I know I brought it all on myself..

Nov 20 - 5PM (Reply to #30)
Brandnewme
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I did the same thing..

Nov 20 - 12PM (Reply to #29)
Willow
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That probably came off harsher than I meant it to... sorry!

Nov 20 - 12PM (Reply to #28)
spinning
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Alright, BB, this will be

spinning

Nov 20 - 11AM (Reply to #18)
BrokenBlonde
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The truth is..

Nov 20 - 11AM (Reply to #23)
Used
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bb

Nov 20 - 12PM (Reply to #24)
BrokenBlonde
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Drinking

Nov 20 - 12PM (Reply to #25)
Used
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bb

Nov 20 - 11AM (Reply to #19)
spinning
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BB, for some reason

spinning

Nov 20 - 6PM (Reply to #22)
MissH
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and so it begins spinnings...

Nov 20 - 12PM (Reply to #20)
BrokenBlonde
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I keep trying to dig deep.

Nov 20 - 12PM (Reply to #21)
BrokenBlonde
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After reading your last post