How could the other woman still take him back after all he has done? I don't get it?

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#1 Oct 28 - 11AM
Loura
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How could the other woman still take him back after all he has done? I don't get it?

I am still at a loss for understanding regarding this: Its been since Aug30 that I found out about my exN and other women and that the whole relationship was one big farce. I contacted the other woman whose phone number I happened to find on his old cell phone bill. I reached out to her in hopes to prevent her from going thru what I went thru. Despite her know that I was pregnant by him, had an abortion, was living with him, him claiming he wanted to marry me, blah, blah, blah...I could hear the desperation in her voice as if saying "please don't take him away from me...". I was not a competition to her, I was trying to inform her...yet she viewed me as competition and chose to stay with him. He is now in prison for not paying $60 thousand dollars in child support...she is still with this guy doing all his legal work. I just don't understand this. One this I had observed was that he would make seem as if "us against the world", yet the problems consistently stemmed from the internal; with him being the common denominator...

Oct 30 - 4PM
Phoenyx
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Hall of mirrors

Oct 28 - 9PM
devvie
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the drama of it...

Oct 29 - 10AM (Reply to #58)
Goldie
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Excellent observation

Oct 29 - 9AM (Reply to #57)
Janie53
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devvie

Oct 28 - 4PM
Dallas
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Hi Loura

Oct 28 - 4PM (Reply to #55)
Loura
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Thanks Dallas

Oct 28 - 11AM
Hunter
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Welcome to NarcvilleFirst,WE

Oct 28 - 12PM (Reply to #4)
Loura
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Interesting. Funny thing is that I did dump him

Oct 28 - 12PM (Reply to #23)
Janie53
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Loura

Oct 28 - 1PM (Reply to #24)
Loura
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Thank you for your response

Oct 28 - 1PM (Reply to #25)
talktothehand
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Loura

Oct 28 - 1PM (Reply to #26)
Loura
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Police his relationship?

Oct 28 - 1PM (Reply to #47)
spinning
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Loura, this was

spinning

Oct 28 - 2PM (Reply to #48)
Loura
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Yes I agree we are all the OW to a point.....

Oct 28 - 3PM (Reply to #49)
ItsFinallytime
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Loura - Really? She deserves

Oct 28 - 3PM (Reply to #50)
Loura
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Yes, really, you deserve what you choose

Oct 28 - 4PM (Reply to #51)
Loura
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I too deserve what I get for not choosing to enable...

Oct 28 - 4PM (Reply to #52)
ItsFinallytime
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To answer your initial

Oct 28 - 5PM (Reply to #53)
Loura
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That's very true....

Oct 28 - 1PM (Reply to #27)
Hunter
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How are you any different

Oct 28 - 2PM (Reply to #28)
Loura
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The difference is that I choose to leave & not enable him...

Oct 29 - 3PM (Reply to #46)
Done sourcing
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Hit rock bottom? And then

Oct 28 - 2PM (Reply to #44)
Journey
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You're basically saying you

Journey on...

Oct 28 - 4PM (Reply to #45)
Loura
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That's what I want to learn, how to let go...

Oct 28 - 2PM (Reply to #32)
Used
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You done this for YOU not

Oct 28 - 2PM (Reply to #33)
Loura
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You're right, I wanted her to dump him too...

Oct 28 - 3PM (Reply to #34)
Used
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I said that when we have

Oct 28 - 3PM (Reply to #36)
Loura
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Okay "Used" if you wish to quibble that you said ...

Oct 28 - 3PM (Reply to #37)
Used
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So when I say something its

Oct 28 - 3PM (Reply to #38)
Loura
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It seems to me that there is a lot of projecting going on...