Connecting the dots -- N mother & N husband.

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#1 June 26, 2013 - 8:00pm
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Connecting the dots -- N mother & N husband.

The connection between having a PD parent and a PD spouse.

I get it.

I get it how the N/P undermines everything you do, when you are their target.

My mother would tell me I couldn't be a X (fill in the blank) because I would get sick every time I did it. LIE. LIE. LIE. But, you tell that to a child over and over, and it starts seeming true.

I didn't get SICK so much. I got sick a normal amount. I could have done X. She was lying to me. Controlling me. Twisting. I see it now. She created a mythology that I was 'sick'.

I grew up. I moved away from my mother. I did X all the time. If I ever did get sick, she would say "SEEEEEEEEE???? You can't do X, you have a stupid lifestyle!" etc.

Enter psychopath who I married. His game? That I was 'crazy'. I wasn't crazy.

After I left him, he would write the threat emails. Threaten. And then plead for me to come back, "For our child!!!" So that he could take care of me! So that I could do X (fill in the blank), because without HIM I could never do it!

For the record, I could never do X during the marriage, because he would make it so that I couldn't.

I did X before I met him. And now I do X all the time, yes, WITHOUT him in my life.

OMG, writing this down makes me feel awful and dizzy.

(it makes me feel a little sick, and yes, a little crazy)

Here's a link to a post I wrote about my mother.
http://www.lisaescott.com/forum/2013/04/21/my-vicious-narc-mother