What was 1st cruel thing he did to you??

What was the very first cruel narc thing he did to you?? Mine was a story I had once previously told: after month's and months of talking about sex, he totally rejected me when I told him we should go somewhere to be alone. Told me that he didn't know what I was talking about, told me he had things tondo and dropped me off. This was the beginning of a year and a half of insidious narc abuse. Should have been the end.