Ex is a narc and now has new gf in office - help!

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#1 May 18, 2012 - 1:23pm
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Ex is a narc and now has new gf in office - help!

Unfortunately I got involved with a guy with a history of cheating on previous girlfriends. The last ex he cheated on by having an affair with someone who is married and works in the same office for nearly 2 years. I ended our thing quite soon after I learned what he had done in previous relationships but the office situation is excruciating because his ex-lover is still there and they have been flirty with each other and even arrived together in the morning (that was so painful to see).
Now I have learned that he is seeing a girl in a different office (same company) and she is a girl who almost every guy I work with lusts after.
I can't seem to get over the situation with him (he chased me immensely after I ended it claiming that he really wanted just me and wanted me to give him a chance - despote some very questionable behaviour with his ex-lover).
I definitely don't want him as I had multiple opportunities to be with him but I can't bear the thought of him being with this new girl and treating her better than me. I am not a patch on her (looks-wise) so I'm assuming that he won't cheat on her or treat her badly because she is such a great catch (she's actually really nice too).
I need some advice and help to get through this horrible situation. I realise I still have feelings for him but they are ones that I would absolutely never act on. I just want to move on but his behaviour in the office (with ex-lover, new lover and he's pretty loud too) is making it so difficult...

June 4, 2012 - 2:38pm
TimeToHealXO
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LAUGH LAUGH LAUGH LAUGH

May 19, 2012 - 9:10am
Rinalda
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Oh, and one more thing to

May 18, 2012 - 1:55pm
Rinalda
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Better off

May 18, 2012 - 3:43pm (Reply to #2)
Gracie_82
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Hi Rinalda, I read your post

June 7, 2012 - 3:55am (Reply to #14)
still_detoxing
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same here.

May 18, 2012 - 3:54pm (Reply to #3)
Rinalda
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I'm sorry you're going

May 18, 2012 - 4:17pm (Reply to #4)
Gracie_82
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I think the main issue for me

May 18, 2012 - 10:07pm (Reply to #5)
Rinalda
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Not worthy

May 19, 2012 - 2:18am (Reply to #6)
Gracie_82
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Thanks Rinalda. I am

May 19, 2012 - 7:12am (Reply to #7)
Rinalda
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Below is my msge. from the

May 19, 2012 - 8:31am (Reply to #8)
Gracie_82
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When I read your post above

May 19, 2012 - 9:01am (Reply to #9)
Rinalda
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Users and losers

May 19, 2012 - 9:56am (Reply to #10)
Gracie_82
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It's shocking that in a

May 20, 2012 - 9:17am (Reply to #11)
Rinalda
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I know exactly what you mean.

May 20, 2012 - 10:26am (Reply to #12)
Gracie_82
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Thanks Rinalda. I think I'm

May 21, 2012 - 5:15pm (Reply to #13)
Rinalda
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The things they say