OUR FAVORITES/THE PATH FORWARD

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February 5, 2012 - 7:51am (Reply to #26)
repressed memory
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That is a great song about

That is a great song about letting go of the past and to live in the moment. We all need to "bury our horses on our back." Thank you.
February 3, 2012 - 2:14pm
Jannie In the Sun
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Hard Rock Angry Girl Song

KoRn - Narcissistic Cannibal!
February 1, 2012 - 4:31am
Goldie
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Great Songs and Music for Healing from and Getting over a NARC!!

Phoenix72 I love, love, love Mazzy Star and this is a really good song.... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=epXGSp9YZ1Q&feature=related
March 6, 2012 - 5:10am (Reply to #23)
Snowflake
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Some of our favourite films/songs are:

GETTING OVER N SONGS: Fighter Christina Aguilera Stronger Britney Spears Stronger Kelly Clarkson Take a bow Rhianna Irreplaceable Beyonce Beautiful Liar Shakira/Beyonce Its My Life Bon Jovi Grenade Bruno Mars Believe Cher Jar Of Hearts Christina Perri Cant hold us down Chistina Aguilera My Lovin En Vogue Survivor/I will Survive Glee Cast Since you been gone Kelly Clarkson Born This Way Lady GAGA Better in Time Leona Lewis So what Pink Mr Know It All Kelly Clarkson Happily Never After Pussycat Dolls Dont hold your breath Nicole Sherzinger Youre so vain Carly Simon (rec by movingforwardnow) Creep Radiohead (rec by Phoenix72) The living proof Mary J Blige (rec by fallingforward) Dont give me your life Alex Party (rec by Jar Of Hearts) Somebody that I used to know Goyte (rec by Jar of Hearts) Shake It Out Florence and the Machine (rec by Needs Help) I've been let down Mazzy Star (rec by Goldie) N FILMS: Dangerous Liaisons Nine 1/2 Weeks Portrait Of a Lady Sleeping with the enemy Gaslight Enough Tyler Perry (rec by Phoenix72) : Tyler Perry's Madea's Big Happy Family Madea's Big Happy Family: The Play Tyler Perry's Madea Goes to Jail Tyler Perry's I Can Do Bad All by Myself Tyler Perry's Meet the Browns Tyler Perry's The Family That Preys Madea's Family Reunion Tyler Perry: What's Done in the Dark Madea Goes to Jail Diary of a Mad Black Woman I Can Do Bad All By Myself Diary of a Mad Black Woman: The Play Madea's Family Reunion Deceived (rec by Redhead) Vicky Cristina Barcelona (rec by Cassie May) American Psychopath (rec by Ellen) Margot at the Wedding (rec by Liselott) Malice (rec by Liselott) The Other Boleyn Girl (rec by better off)
January 31, 2012 - 5:52pm
Hunter
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Silent treatment

http://abuse101.com/silenttreatmentandabuse.html Hunter
January 31, 2012 - 5:48pm
Hunter
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For all you co dependents

http://gettinbetter.com/needlove.html Hunter
January 19, 2012 - 3:40am
Goldie
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New Video

Check this new video on Thomas Sheridan site Posted January 19, 2012 - 2:23am unfortunalty it describes the x. http://www.kickstarter.com/projects/1484615843/psychopathy-and-why-you-n... Posted by nomoredenial
January 18, 2012 - 8:16am
repressed memory
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Narcissist and the Opposite Sex

Here is another link to Sam Vaknin's site. He just knows so much on this subject. Even if he speaks of someone very pathological, if yours was/is not that clinically diagnosable like mine was, you can still get a wealth of information explaining why your narc did this or that. http://samvak.tripod.com/narcissistoppositesex.html
January 16, 2012 - 8:08am
repressed memory
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Pathological Narcissistic Space - Their Playground

This is a great page on Sam Vaknin's site. He explains in basic layman's terms the behaviors narcs do and why they do them. For those of us witnessing our narcs behavior before, during and after our relationships, ie. we work with them, etc., and didn't understand what happened, he explains it very well. They are walking tornadoes and leave a path of distruction with their need for DRAMA. http://samvak.tripod.com/faq59.html
January 12, 2012 - 12:35am
nomoredenial
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How they create feelings of pity for them

http://www.runboard.com/bnarcissisticabuserecovery.f4.t103
January 8, 2012 - 4:04pm
susnebraska
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Cognitive Dissonance

Loved this article! Well-written. I especially liked the term "backstabbing snake," to describe the Narcissist. - healthy relationships don't end abruptly - healthy relationships are NOT based on emotional abuse & domination - healthy individuals don't hide a mask of maliciousness - Healthy individuals don't threaten the other when a relationship ends For us victims, it's difficult to accept the sad reality that the "man" who claimed he loved me - is a con artist & snake who did - not love me. As a result of this drawn out relationship that sucked the life and self-esteem out of me, I continue to suffer, i.e. experience intense, prolonged pain in my subconscious - in the form of constant nightmares & surface anxiety. Accepting reality, i.e. the truth about my Ex PD (personality disordered) - is difficult for me to accept. All of these facts outlined in this article - are painful to understand & face. Six months post devalue/discard I deal with the ebb of flows of this horrible reality. But fortunately, I am feeling better here and there, minus the periodic metaphoric nightmares I experience. Great article. Lays it all out. The painful feelings we go through.
January 4, 2012 - 3:20pm
OneMomsBattle
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This was one that hit home

This was one that hit home for me-- Help! I'm Divorcing a Narcissist http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-legacy-distorted-love/201102/help-im-divorcing-narcissist Tina
December 30, 2011 - 1:34pm
Laughs Last (not verified)
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A good article for all

http://gettinbetter.com/salt.html
December 13, 2011 - 12:23pm
Goldie
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My Handbook/Freaked

Compiled over 8 months and counting: http://gal1617.blogspot.com/2011/12/maturity.html http://www.mcssl.com/SecureCart/ViewCart.aspx?mid=3E95CABF-79F8-40E8-A6F7-150666484DD2&sctoken=005c08a281c24308885f97ee14b96351&bhcp=1
April 6, 2012 - 12:03am (Reply to #12)
freaked
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Updated http://galbtdt.blogspot.in/

February 27, 2012 - 2:01am (Reply to #11)
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url changed: http://galwtf.blogspot.in/

I have changed the url of my blog to http://galwtf.blogspot.in/ Freaked
December 13, 2011 - 12:12pm
Goldie
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Submitted by Layla/Exposing the mask of insanity

I posted this last night in the Steps 1-3 forum for another member to look at but then noticed Lisa started this great new forum which is an EXCELLENT idea, by the way! My offering to the favorites was originally brought to my attention when Scoop posted it a few months ago. While highly important in it's message and valuable information it provides, I still can't get over laughing at the comical electronic voices in it....I don't know why it makes me laugh but it does! Haha! Anyway, this is a great video for people just coming to terms that they are dealing with a disordered one. Enjoy! love~ Layla http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rXEgzhMKGeg
November 5, 2012 - 9:09pm (Reply to #9)
misshymers
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Love it!

March 21, 2012 - 3:16pm (Reply to #8)
Cabo
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Excellent

December 13, 2011 - 12:14pm (Reply to #2)
Goldie
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Submitted by Uk lady/What is abuse?

Emotional, Verbal, and Psychological Abuse, Domestic and Family Violence and Spousal Abuse By: Dr. Sam Vaknin http://samvak.tripod.com/abuse.html
December 13, 2011 - 12:16pm (Reply to #3)
Goldie
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Idealize, Devalue, & Discard/Submitted by Hunter

http://psychopathyawareness.wordpress.com/2010/12/22/the-psychopaths-rel... One of My Favorites Great idea Lisa .. Hunter
December 13, 2011 - 12:39pm (Reply to #4)
spinning
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Somethings to consider from Spinning

http://www.narcissismfree.com/psychic-chord-cutting.php http://www.successconsciousness.com/index_000065.htm http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/understanding-why-you-find-it-hard-to-get-over-someone-that-future-faked-and-fast-forwarded/ http://alexandranouri.wordpress.com/2011/08/09/how-to-make-a-narcissist-pay/#entry Love and light to all who stop here from, (not) spinning. BECAUSE I'M ON THE PATH FORWARD

spinning

March 21, 2012 - 10:14pm (Reply to #7)
Stooopid-NoMore
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Mr. Unavailable and the Fallback Girl - Kindle version

January 8, 2012 - 1:37pm (Reply to #5)
nomoredenial
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cognitive dissonance...great article

http://psychopathyawareness.wordpress.com/2011/07/29/a-painful-increduli... Other victims project the blame back unto themselves. They accept the psychopath’s projection of blame and begin questioning themselves: what did I do wrong, to drive him away? What was lacking in me that he was so negative or unhappy in the relationship? Was I not smart enough, virtuous enough, hard-working enough, beautiful enough, sexy enough, attentive enough, submissive enough etc. When one experiences cognitive dissonance, the rational knowledge about psychopathy doesn’t fully sink in on an emotional level. Consequently, the victim moves constantly back and forth between the idealized fantasy and the pathetic reality of the psychopath. This is a very confusing process and an emotionally draining one as well. Initially, when you’re the one being idealized by him, the fantasy is that a psychopath can love you and that he is committed to you and respects you. Then, once you’ve been devalued and/or discarded, the fantasy remains that he is capable of loving others, just not you. That you in particular weren’t right for him, but others can be. This is the fantasy that the psychopath tries to convince every victim once they enter the devalue phase. Psychopaths truly believe this because they never see anything wrong with themselves or their behavior, so if they’re no longer excited by a person, they conclude it must be her (or his) fault; that she (or he) is deficient. ›
November 27, 2012 - 12:33am (Reply to #6)
Alissa
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NO isn't a dirty word