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#1 November 15, 2011 - 7:44am


I have had no contact for a while, and she dumped me 11 weeks ago, but yesterday I feel as though I had a little closure. I want her to hurt for this as much as I do, but am sure she hasn't shed a tear, especially having someone lined up to go to before she dumped me. So yesterday as I'm going home from work, I had to take an alternate route because of heavy traffic, and lo and behold when I get on the freeway who do I pull up behind but her. I was getting off at the next exit, so I passed her. When I did, traffic was slow enough that we were next to each other on the road, and we both looked over at each other. I looked at her for about 3 seconds, never aknowledging her, and then had to move over in front of her to get off the freeway. When I got off the freeway, traffic was too heavy so I decided to get back on the freeway, and got back on right in front of her. She honked her horn several times as if to get my attention, but I ignored her, hit the gas and moved ahead. I could see in my rear view mirror that she tried to catch me, but gave up when she saw I was getting away from her and had no interest in seeing her or connecting. It's not much, but I feel anything that can be done to show them that they can't get anything THEY want and ignore them how you can, is a little bit of closure.

November 16, 2011 - 5:58pm

Remember.. Silence = Fuck


Silence = Fuck you!

Good job


November 16, 2011 - 5:34pm

I'm smiling at your post

I'm smiling at your post because I am imagining her honking to get your attention & wondering why you wouldn't acknowledge wonderful her. Knowing Narcs she probably thinks your music was turned up so loud you couldn't hear her honking ;)

Great job!


November 15, 2011 - 8:13am

I can't believe that she

I can't believe that she things you would be all smiles and waves when seeing her! Who are these people?!

I'm happy you had the chance to completely ignore her. She probably doesnt understand, 'Maybe he just doesn't see me...' Because why would anyone not want to see her! (Sarcasm) It sounds like you're doing really well. Congrats!

November 15, 2011 - 1:34pm (Reply to #2)


Thanks lillymarch, I appreciate the encouraging words!

January 4, 2012 - 1:42pm (Reply to #3)

Hmmm. I can imagine her

Hmmm. I can imagine her rage when you ignored her!! I'm glad you felt some satisfaction. I've read your posts. I'm christian too (catholic) and I was in church today. I asked God to help me forgive narc ex friend as I am really struggling to let go of my feelings of resentment. I trust God to help me, He who understands betrayal like no other. But forgiving does not mean letting narc back into my life. God also says not to throw our pearls before swine. I never understood what He meant by that before, but I sure do now!!

I wish you well.

January 5, 2012 - 12:50pm (Reply to #4)


Thanks TooSoft! Forgiveness seems to be the hardest thing for me, and I have to remember that "While we were yet sinners, Christ came to die for us." I DO forgive her, but hope I don't see or hear from her again this side of heaven. Take care! :)

January 7, 2012 - 4:58am (Reply to #5)

Hi DLP75. Yes, forgiveness

Hi DLP75. Yes, forgiveness is tough but necessary for our recovery. I must say though I do have a sense of release since I begun forgiving her. But I will never give her the chance to hurt me again.

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