The Most Hurtful One-liner N Blurted Out - What Was Yours?

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August 17, 2012 - 4:43pm (Reply to #94)
lavendar19's picture

Mine would also twist my arm

September 17, 2011 - 12:01pm
agnesmurphy17's picture

The Last Straw

After two years of marriage he was going on & on about how sexually frustrated he was [because I refused to engage in his S/M fantasies] & starved for communication & tenderness. I asked him what changed since our marriage since he told me beofre we married that he was very satisfied with our sex life & that he loved me & loved being with me (obviously comunicating). His response: "I was never emotionally or connected to you. I thought my love for you would transform you as [my ex-girlfriend's] love had transformed me." Like I'm supposed to believe that a man is so in love with a woman with whom he has no emotional or sexual connection? Nor did he ever want to admit this line was hurtful & insulting. But the reality was he only married me to access double earning power to puchase a house above his financial means. I figured that one out.
September 18, 2011 - 10:54am (Reply to #91)
Sunafterrain's picture


So yours married you for money. Interesting post here. Mine just married another for money. I wonder if he treats her like shit. You may have just shown me that even if he gets married for money, the behaviors persist. Thanks for your post. What was your honeymoon phase like? I'm curious
August 16, 2012 - 2:14pm (Reply to #92)
maui3375's picture

Money and the Narc..

September 17, 2011 - 9:24am
Winter's picture

Here it is

"I know you deserve better than me" and "How can you put up with me?"
September 17, 2011 - 8:11am
WhiteSwan44's picture

Here's one for you

After a beating me down one night he took it to another level. He brought up my XH, said I should just go back to him and then referencing my XH's current wife: "BETTER YET, WHY DON'T WE DO A WIFE SWAP? I WOULDNT MIND GIVING IT TO HER. SHE'S GOT A SWEET TIGHT BODY AND A TRULY GREAT ASS" Speaking of asses....
September 17, 2011 - 7:02am
prettypeeved's picture

When he learned I was going

When he learned I was going to start seeing a therapist so I could try and unpick the knot I felt I'd got into, he said: "I'm glad you're getting help for your mental problems."
September 17, 2011 - 7:00am
prettypeeved's picture

After putting me through some

After putting me through some serious emotional unpleasantness by managing to persuade me to lie to my partner and go off on a weekend away with him (Narc Boy) instead, I asked him weeks later what the plan was. "Oh I didn't really mean any of that. I just wanted to see how you were thinking."
September 17, 2011 - 5:35am
Jeff's picture

here's another one

WHile he was schlepping his new squeeze on a beach holiday paid for by yours truly: "You are my heart, my soul, my mind, my body...everything. You are with me every moment of the day, filling my heart with love. It's overwhelming but true.." Kind of like saying you were thinking about having a baby when you were having sex...Eeuuu.
September 17, 2011 - 5:32am
Jeff's picture

gosh where to start

N oneliners..what a great topic. Conversation stoppers every one. Classic fart in church kind of stuff. Seeing him for the first time after he dumped me for another sucker with zero notice.. "You look depressed. I dont think that shirt suits you.." After having worked his way through my savings account then blown me off for new love.. " I spoiled you rotten all these years, and this is the thanks I get..." (He even stole my LINES!) I think if we can distance ourselves a little from these people, some of these lines are really quite funny. One day we will all have a real laugh...!
September 17, 2011 - 5:25am
Jelickuk's picture

Actually the very worst thing

Actually the very worst thing he ever said was.. Don't be silly, there's nothing wrong. I love you, you're my jelick, I couldn't leAve you even if I wanted to. I love you, I can't help it, you and the children are everything for me, I couldn't survive without you. The day after he left to be with ow
September 17, 2011 - 3:45pm (Reply to #83)
Anabelle's picture

the same here

and there is nothing else to say about this. I understand your pain.
September 17, 2011 - 5:12am
prettypeeved's picture

"I just like messing with

"I just like messing with your head" - said after he'd caused immense emotional pain by doing exactly that.
September 17, 2011 - 5:08am
TNR1's picture

Silent Treatment....

I actually could handle all the straight..."you are simply a sex object that I use from time to time" texts. It was the silent treatment that hurt most of all. The times when I would send him a text and he would not respond for days or weeks hurt the most. All of a sudden I would go from feeling acknowledged to feeling forgotten/pushed aside/not enough.
September 17, 2011 - 11:28pm (Reply to #79)
tresor2's picture

Silent Treatment

I'm with you...the silent treatment hurt more than anything. Mine did the same; he'd ignore my texts or not return calls. I didn't contact him often but, when I did and he was either mad or with OW, he would ignore for hours, days weeks, He'd eventually respond and act like nothing happened. Finally, I got so fed up, I refused to answer his calls and he moved in a OW. That was that. He learned that ignoring was a trigger for me and he'd purposly ignore to get me going. He loved seeing me suffer and hurt; a total f'n sadistic SOB. But, when I ignored him, he'd get mad.
September 18, 2011 - 8:03am (Reply to #80)
TNR1's picture

Oh...that was the same for

Oh...that was the same for me. If he sent me a text and I did not respond, he would send me another text telling me to pay attention to him. I still have that text as a reminder of his Narcness.
September 17, 2011 - 3:57am
Gerri's picture

Narc " You're not very

Narc " You're not very observant are you Gerri" (Totally out of the blue and unprovoked) Me " Actually I think I am observant" Narc " Well if you tell yourself that, you would be lying to yourself" Narc " There's a really fit girl started at work. She'd look good on the end of my cock" Narc " If I ever had to marry you I wouldn't wear a ring"
September 17, 2011 - 3:56am
Jelickuk's picture

She is a warm loving person,

She is a warm loving person, unlike you who just wants to place conditions on husband comparing me to his ow when u suggested he end it with her if he wanted to cone back with me and his children
September 12, 2011 - 3:13am
prettypeeved's picture


Me: "I thought you liked the fact that I used to write video games?" Him: "That was back when I thought you'd worked on something good like Super Mario." Right. Thanks a LOT. Nice to know MY games were so mediocre!
September 12, 2011 - 3:28am (Reply to #75)
Anabelle's picture


WHAT A JERK!!!! :DDDDDDDDDD ok..... Sorry.... :))))) Is there anybody over age 6 who still plays Super Mario??? :)))
September 12, 2011 - 3:09am
prettypeeved's picture

Me: "I love you so

Me: "I love you so much." Him: "Well clearly you *don't* because you won't leave your partner." Errr...yeah. That might have had something to do with his total lack of commitment and my sixth sense that something just wasn't right.
September 12, 2011 - 2:17am
ifinallygotit's picture

it was not the words that hurt

it was his actions he never tried to make me happy and did not care about my life he was quiet and polite and dismissive and neglectful
September 17, 2011 - 6:50am (Reply to #72)
How could I
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only words that hurt

only words that hurt were the lies!!
September 12, 2011 - 2:14am
ifinallygotit's picture

not saying

I love you without me asking saying I guess I love you I guess you are me GF I guess I miss you How could he not know his own feelings after 12 years?
September 12, 2011 - 1:17am
Sea's picture

my N is passive-aggressive.

my N is passive-aggressive. the most hurtful ever is: "gf? what gf? so you want to be my gf? haha u are just a friend" yes just a friend in the whole 3 years together and i also know that he tells all his OW that i am just a "work colleague" amazing... from friend to work colleague. so next demotion is ??
September 11, 2011 - 9:06pm
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Anonymous's picture

Oh you guys!

Oh oh, ouch, ow...It's almost physically painful to read these. I had to stop I started to hurt so bad. Feel for you all. Mine was completely passive aggressive so I didn't have to go through this kind of blatant abuse. I have to wonder what's worse, someone who drops you from a plane at 35,000 ft. with no warning what so ever or the overtly abusive monsters. Either way is cruel beyond belief. I really can't believe there are so many people like this out there. Yikes!
September 11, 2011 - 6:59pm
Hunter's picture


Great thread!! Bottom line!! Do you see a pattern?? Same guy different Body!
September 11, 2011 - 9:36pm (Reply to #67)
tresor2's picture


Yes...incredible. I thought evil had only one look and I had the monopoly. It's interesting with these one liners. Most of them provid a great deal of insight into what they are thinking and what they are planning. All of their twisted jabs have significance in terms of what is going on in their twisted minds. I, unfortunately, was not skilled enough to see it because I was too emotionally reactive. The jabs kept me guessing and kept me stuck in misery and dispair. Same guy, different body, it's very clear.
September 11, 2011 - 6:49pm
newtothis's picture

i know this is sad but....

it is too painful to think about all of things things he has said. I will get there! Today isn't a good day!
September 11, 2011 - 6:58pm
KeshaN's picture

i have many "You just don't

i have many "You just don't know what your getting yourself into being with me" "You are just as easy lay" "I don't give a f*ck about you" "Can't no woman hurt me" "your the joke in all of this" "Your a dumb duck" "I love you but i don't like you" "I can replace you easily..I can have any girl i want you should feel lucky that i chose you" -this one is funny to me because after i left him he told me he could never replace me haha "You think you know everything and that your always right" "Why do you think i am such a horrible person!" "You drove me to cheat by not pleasing me" "When will you get that you dont control shit" "You are so disobedient. So i got to the point where i felt like if you aren't going to respect and obey me you were going fear me! bwahhahaha!" "I should have kicked your ass!" "i should have killed you instead of breaking your nose!" "I hope you burn in hell" "I'm tired of reading you dumb theories" "You make everything out of a big deal" After cheating he says "Stop worrying about everyone else and just worry about me and you." also after cheating "If you were doing your job this wouldn't have happened! "i am not benefiting none by being with you so its over!" "no body even likes you make enemies everywhere you go!" Saying this after lying on me to someone "i got so many people in my corner and you have nobody!" "It works for me" after doing something extremely hurtful "im going to prove to you that I am not his horrible person you make me out to be" total bs
September 18, 2011 - 12:56pm (Reply to #64)
Scooters Mom
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Oh yes and......

I forgot, He also used to tell me that he needed to eat three times a day! It was my responsibility to make sure he ate three times a day. AND, God forbid he come home and catch me eating while he was gone! Once I ditched a sandwich behind the couch because I heard him coming another time I hid a plate in the oven. When I ditched the sandwich he walked in and asked "what is the dog doing?" Hmm, No clue? I responded. Knowing full well that the dog was eating my sandwich. OHHHHH The Insanity of it all!
September 12, 2011 - 1:16am (Reply to #63)
tresor2's picture


This guy is horrible. Sounds like a 51/50 candidate for Nurse Wratchet. I hope you are free and clear of this psycho and can maintain NC. Glad you found this site.
September 11, 2011 - 11:24pm (Reply to #62)
HollyAnderson's picture

Your just another pretty face

Your just another pretty face to me thats all you are bitches aint shit but ho's and tricks oh you thought we were on a date? you don't give me my space Your crazy
September 11, 2011 - 4:21pm
onwithmylife's picture


"I never loved you, i just wanted us to get a house together so I could drive you off the cliff and get the house". There is a compassionate, loving man hahahhahhaa.............insanity at its best.Oh i forgot you'"cunt, whore, advertising on craigslist for free sex, first come, first served".. { because i told him I met a man for coffee, when we had broken up and then got back together} \don't you just love how they twist things in their pea brains to make it your fault!!!!,
September 11, 2011 - 6:11pm (Reply to #60)
tresor2's picture

How Sick is That? Onwithmylife

Your guy sounds like a gem. Sorry you had to endure all the abuse. Double standards are alive and well. I did the same thing, in terms of dating. Eight years ago, after he told me he didn't want a relationship, I posted under "plutonic" and met someone for a lunch. He turned out to be a psycho and that was the end of my online dating experience. I told N about it after he broke up with me and I think he found my ad and answered it, trying to see how far I'd go. He's a lawyer and in his response to my posting, he said he was a lawyer and he wanted me to meet him for a drink after he got off work at 10:00 PM. Thank God I didn't go. Would have been funny & embarressing. Eight years later (last year), he brought up the incident during his final D & D. He had a problem with my race preference in the ad which is exactly the same race he is. More double standards. Maybe this was at the root of his cruelty, I don't know. Sad isn't it.
September 11, 2011 - 3:38pm
Scoop's picture

When i found out my mum was

When i found out my mum was sick and i went to his for comfort he said "People die all the time you just have to deal with it anyway why do you want me to always sort out your problems for you" And when i had a pregnacy scare he said "its your fault your pregnant YOU slept with ME " actaully that one is not hurtful its just funny now, crazy psychopath !! He said on the 4th D&D (there where six !) "When i said i loved you i didnt mean it , i just felt sorry for you " At the 2nd D&D he dumped me just after sex when i wasnt even dressed yet , when asked why he had sex with me when he knew he was going to devastate me after he said " I was horny " He said "im helping you with your problems , only i know how disturbed you are " How about " i didnt sleep with her we just shared a bed thats all , your crazy !"....hahaha , im laughing now because its been a long time since i have thought about theses things and i realize how barking mad he was .I could go on all night have them in my journal , page apon page of them .. xx
September 11, 2011 - 11:28pm (Reply to #57)
HollyAnderson's picture

My little brother died

My little brother died crossing a train track and I told him about it. He just said well what was he doing on the track in the first place? He never was able to empathize with anything. I got called crazy alot. Him saying wher do we get married? to were just friends did you ever think it was anything different? Real nasty experiences we have all been through.
September 17, 2011 - 5:52pm (Reply to #58)
peteyrulz's picture

Holly...sounds like mine

my older brother died in April, and I got no support from N. His idea of support was "I paid for your plane ticket". I was just too emotional for this guy to handle. How dare I be upset over a tragic loss of my brother. Sheesh, what was I thinking. After all, it wasn't about HIM. I got called crazy a lot too. And I definitely "needed help". He wanted me to relocate with my son to his town, with no committment. I was supposed to trust him. Ha! It was a good thing I didn't....he broke up with me via text in June...haven't spoken to the jerk since. sorry...I am rambling...I could go on for hours! I love this forum.
September 11, 2011 - 6:22pm (Reply to #56)
tresor2's picture

Scoop - Labeling your N a Psycho is a Compliment

OMG...what a freak of genetically altered nature. He sounds stupid and totally wacked. Do they really believe their own BS? The crap that comes out of their mouths is insane and if it weren't so hurtful, would be a fascinating study. It's unreal and it's still hard to believe there are people in this world who are so disturbed and ruthless...the cockroaches of the universe.
September 11, 2011 - 3:03pm
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"I wished you'd hurry up and

"I wished you'd hurry up and die" because I have health problems. "You're just the wife" aka, I'm nobody important and I have no worth to him (unlike xnh's "adult" daughters and his mommy, who all supposedly crap gold according to xnh). "Maybe I'll just beat the shit out of you until you divorce me." "I've never before met as big of a fucking cunt as YOU are." "You're just a receptacle for my sperm." "You KNOW that I was always a good husband to you!" Bwahhh! Hahhhhhh! Hahhhhhh! Here's my loud, peels of laughter! If xnh was a "good husband", I never want to meet a "bad" one. Personally, I think I'd really rather DO WITHOUT than have another "good" husband like xnh. :) Xnh told me this line after he'd been cheating and he'd dumped me. He came back for a hoover attempt, and this is how he'd re-written history in his little, demented mind. Personally, I think xnh sucked as a husband (and as a lame excuse for a human being).

God sometimes removes a person from your life for your protection. Don't run after them.

September 11, 2011 - 3:07pm (Reply to #51)
Used's picture


from my exnh, you cunt..oh no sorry you cant be a cunt b/c a cunt is useful your not..
September 11, 2011 - 3:13pm (Reply to #52)
mystwoman's picture

These jerks are not worth the

These jerks are not worth the air they breath! What a bunch of human waste. Before I met xnh, I had never even believed that it was even possible to be so cruel. My eyes are wide open now! Hugs to us all for being on the receiving end of these narc's vile treatment!

God sometimes removes a person from your life for your protection. Don't run after them.

September 18, 2011 - 1:18pm (Reply to #54)
Better than ever
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Oh, I forgot the best

Oh, I forgot the best one....we live in upstate NY but I have a Boston accent (slight) from living there over 20 years......So, he would pick on me, saying it made me sound retard....That should say it all.......
September 11, 2011 - 3:56pm (Reply to #53)
Scoop's picture

What i have learnt reading

What i have learnt reading this post is it was because of the hurtful things he said that made sure i stayed away form him . His hurtful mouth is what saved me . Please ladies im going to keep banging on about keeping a journal , you have to keep a record of theses things as i cant stress how it helps in your recovory , write it all down .Start it today if you havent already, its a good excuse to get yourself a lovely new journal , if your anything like me i just love shopping for stuff like that , there are some realy pretty ones around , TJ max have loads , love them i bought 3 the other day , £2 each ! bargin :) . xx
September 11, 2011 - 2:59pm
Swan's picture

painful truth

"I am the only one who loves you. I am the only one who understands you. Even your own family doesn't love you"
September 18, 2011 - 12:47pm (Reply to #49)
Scooters Mom
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mine told me this all the time. He would always make comments about how I was the black sheep of my family and didnt really fit in. He said other things too like: You dont make good decisions, infact I think the last good decision you made was to marry me. don't touch the remote for the T.V.because it isnt dummy proof. I don't mind working and paying all the bills, you just keep your Pu**y all tight and trimmed up. If your not the center of attention you dont go along with the plan. (because I got tired of having him make plans for me!) I could give you more money or try harder in the relationship but you dont inspire me. I'm not giving you money to move out because I've already taken care of your dead ass for 12 years. I will give you money to move out just to get you out of my hair. I have to look at porn because i was single once.
September 17, 2011 - 2:46am (Reply to #48)
lillymarch's picture

Mine said the same thing! And

Mine said the same thing! And that no one would love me like him. That he would talk to any man who tried to date me and explain how screwed up I am. On and on. I was lucky to have him. Yuk
September 11, 2011 - 3:01pm (Reply to #47)
Swan's picture

~ and there are so many,

~ and there are so many, many, many more little gems.
September 11, 2011 - 3:00pm (Reply to #46)
Anabelle's picture

I am the only one who helps you

I am helping you. You need me. I need you. You are mine.... B U L L S H I T
September 11, 2011 - 2:36pm
Anabelle's picture

Hard to choose one

"Whatever I do it's wrong" "I was sleeping with her to find out how much I love you" "I masturbate always thinking of her whenever we had a fight" "You twist the stories" "Why are you giving in so easily?" "You have zero self-confidence. Why?" "Tell me is this the alcohol that makes you look for a fight?" "Stop questioning our relationship" "She kissed me" I think it's enough....for today