he said i had a booger sticking out of my nose..not even true

Because my nephew is good at using those too! When people here say "My Narc has the emotional level of a teenager" or "my Narc is mentally 6 or 7",I think "WOW, your Narcs are mature...because mine is definitely a toddler in a middle-aged man's body!" My nephew gets upset and says "Mess" when there's food... ON HIS FACE. He's mindful of that. He wants HIS face wiped. I saw a bowl with the ex-Psych prof's name for it... at the toy store. Since he's averse to using utensils, thank goodness there are easier to ones made for his kind... should I go for Winnie the Pooh or PIXAR's CARS? When it comes to gift-giving... one must have the recipient's mentality in mind.

Then, you will always have this abuser in your life. I think we think these people can change. We can pray for them. Not harbor grudges. But, if we keep in contact, they will continue to abuse us. On some level, you must think you can’t do better than this treatment, and I’m here to tell you—YOU CAN. NC is a process. It’s not magic…it won’t happen over night. You have to go through some depression to get to the light of NC. I only tell you this because I care. I have been there. But, just know…you continue dialogue, he’ll continue to hurt you. If he ‘’appears’’ nice…it’s so you get close again, so he can abuse you. Why do you want to be with someone who told you you’re gross??? :=(

I know NC is tough, but I think if you turn this into something fun, it could be great. Start a thread here called "2 months NC countdown" or something. Every day, come in and post the day #, along with any updates from his end or any temptations you may have had! It'll be like a personal diary/goal for 2 months -- something to distract you from the N. You will have everyone here rooting for you :) Of course he seems to hate you when he finds other GF's. That's how they work! So BEAT HIM to the chase, and start giving him the silent treatment. He might say/do something that makes you SOOOOO mad. Do not respond. Instead, post here. For example, as much as I loved his ridiculous booger comment, I would have MUCH preferred to see THIS yesterday: "Day 1: Narc begs me for meds. I wanted to bring them to him, but I didn't even respond! WHAT A DESPERATE LOSER." So start today :D I really think this could be empowering for you! Practice indifference, even if you don't feel it.

You’re not an idiot. You can do this. Sometimes, we break NC. But, there will come a point, when you will tire of being abused. This is NOT a relationship. You’re referring to it as such. It’s not. It’s called…he’s an abuser, and you’re taking it. That’s not a relationship. I say this with charity. But, I’d be doing you a disservice if I lied to you and told you that what you’re in is a ‘’relationship.’’ Believe me. He doesn’t think of you as his gf. You’re supply. The other chick was supply. We were all at one point, supply. That’s it. You have the power to take back your own life. You can’t change him. You can change your reactions to him. Please heed our warnings. (((hugs)))