WELCOME TO OUR FORUM FOR VICTIMS OF FEMALE NARCISSISTS
WELCOME TO OUR FORUM FOR VICTIMS OF FEMALE NARCISSISTS
With the rise of narcissism in recent decades, more and more people are finding themselves in relationships with narcissistic men and women. Narcissists are hard to avoid these days because our culture promotes narcissistic behavior as glamorous and rewards it shamelessly.
Narcissism has been called an epidemic as studies show it’s increasing just as fast as rates of obesity. Research tells us that today’s youth are three times more narcissistic than their predecessors and a large percentage of this increase has been attributed to a greater number of narcissistic women.
Unfortunately, those who display haughty, arrogant, self-indulgent and child-like behavior are rewarded with their own television series. Think “Real Housewives” and “The Kardashians.” Daughters who once would have been disciplined for spoiled behavior are now running their own television empires and glamorizing insidious narcissistic behavior young girls look up to and emulate. Our youth are obsessed with celebrity culture and grow up believing fame is the only noteworthy pinnacle of success.
Although it is not easy for a man to admit he’s been abused by a woman, it is an unfortunate reality we can no longer afford to deny. In fact, in my research, I have found that female narcissists are often more cunning, manipulative and ruthless than their male counterparts.
Why is it so difficult for us to accept that a female can be just as, or even more abusive, than a man? The main reason for this is because we have been conditioned to believe women are nurturers. Women inherently have more empathy and compassion for others because they are equipped to provide primary care and feeding to their offspring, right?
Unfortunately, what is not accounted for in this widely held assumption is the fact that some women experience an arrested development in their early childhood, which prohibits them from experiencing or feeling the kind of empathy required to sufficiently care for others. These women suffer from Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and are truly incapable of love. It is certainly unfortunate these women have failed to evolve in a healthy way, but important to recognize in order to avoid being hurt or manipulated by such women.
It is critical to understand that narcissists are predators. Perhaps because one does not expect predatory type behavior from a woman, the female narcissist can be much more covert and stealth-like in her approach to lure her prey. A female narcissist knows how to manipulate a man into believing he is pursuing her when all the while she has targeted him from the beginning.
Female narcissists use their physical assets to attract, manipulate and control their victims. Whereas, men use their power and status to dominate. Female narcissists have mastered the art of seduction and exploit the fact that many men are visual creatures. They target and hunt men they know will have the means to cater to their needs and stroke their insatiable ego.
It is often much more difficult for men to spot the red flags of narcissism early on in a relationship. Women can often determine a man’s intentions by seeing how patient he is to get physical. It’s not quite so simple for a man. While finding someone of good character is just as important to a man, men are primarily drawn to women via their sexual attraction, which gives an attractive woman a considerable amount of power over even the most discerning of men.
Underneath the flashy exterior of a narcissist is a fragile ego, which requires constant attention and validation. The implications this has on a relationship are far more damaging than you could ever imagine. Eventually, a narcissist will discard, devalue, belittle and criticize you. Emotional abuse is inevitable in any long-term relationship with a narcissist. The abuse is not only devastating, but comes out of nowhere and causes you to question everything you thought you ever knew.
Narcissists are incapable of reciprocating love, which makes healthy relationships with them impossible. While they appear caring in the beginning, eventually you realize, they have simply put on an act in order to win and secure your love.
The only reason a narcissist seeks out a relationship is to ensure someone is always present to meet her never-ending needs. She has a sense of entitlement which leads her to believe she is deserving of everything from everyone; and if you want to sustain a relationship with her, you should be prepared to provide beyond what is typically considered reasonable. If you don’t, she will be sure to remind you she can easily get this from other men in her life with the snap of her fingers. A female narcissist prides herself on having a large circle of admirers (i.e. supply) available to stroke her ego at all times.
It is important you understand the type of personality you’re dealing with in a narcissist and stop blaming yourself for the pain and confusion you may be feeling right now. If you have been in a relationship with a narcissist for some time, you have been experiencing emotional abuse at the hands of someone you love, which is one of the most agonizing experiences one can have in love and life. Please do not minimize what you’re going through and inform yourself by learning more. Knowledge is power.
“It’s a deep and certain truth about narcissistic personalities that to meet them is to love them, but to know them well is to find them unbearable. Confidence quickly curdles into arrogance; smarts turns to smugness, charm turns to smarm.“
Once we learn to see the narcissist for the person they really are, we are finally able to free ourselves. We realize we do not need this person in our lives to feel whole and complete. We were whole and complete before this person entered our lives and we will be whole and complete once we end our relationship with this person. It is the narcissist who is preventing us from being truly happy. It is so important you understand this.
NOTHING stands between you and your true self, but the narcissist in your life.
Love & Light,