Slight tiff this morning, with my friend who knows ex N
Slight tiff this morning, with my friend who knows ex N
This happened with the friend who knows him. She's on his FB friends list. Anywho. She texted me this morning, to see how I'm doing. I said Doing well.
Going to paraphrase from the texts...
Friend: You're not going to reach out to him, right Dee?
Me: No...I understand why he kept the pics up, but it's still weird to me.
Friend: You're dealing with a sick person, Dee. The ONLY reason he kept those pics up? Is to see if you looked at his profile. He's hoping you'll text him today, demanding to have them removed.
Me: I guess. I know you're right.
Friend: Dee? You better start seeing this man for what he is...a psychopath. Stop feeling weepy over him. He doesn't care about you. He told you he loved you after what, 3 weeks? You really feel special knowing you could have been wife 5? Wow...yes, he only loved you, Dee.
Me: I didn't say that. I don't like where this is going. You act like I'm clueless.
Friend: I'm sorry, Dee. But, here is what you need to think of, when thinking of this man. He was certainly hurt by this breakup. But, they don't process hurt like you and me. He processes things in terms of control vs losing control. All he sees right now, is losing control. Losing YOU, meant losing control. Does that make sense?
Me: Yeah, that does.
Friend: Everything he does from here on out that remotely involves you...will be about regaining control. Believe me, he is watching your every move on that site. Be careful what you say.
Me: So, he didn't keep the pics up because he wanted to?
Friend: He'd rather cut off his arm, than give you the satisfaction that he is pining over you. Believe me, Dee. He is hoping you contact him today, asking why those pics are still up. He wins in two ways here, he will know you're looking at his profile, and he will have you contacting him again.
Me: He told me he wants nothing to do with me, tho. He told me that yesterday in a text.
Friend: Said to bait you into saying...really? You don't ever want to speak to me again? Start thinking like this man.
Me: I didn't reply to him when he said that, tho.
Friend: Very good! Silence will be your only friend here with him, Dee. Unless he runs out over the next month and falls in love with someone else, you are going to be dealing with this guy one way or the other. Be ready for it! Be alert! Stop being weepy.
Me: I'm not weepy! I have to go. Ttyl...
Friend: Now, you're mad at me.
Me: I'm not mad. You act like you have a Ph.D. in psychopathery.
Friend: LOL--Psychopathery? Is that a word?
Me: LOL I made it up. :P
Friend: I love you, Dee. I just want you to be on guard...because this guy is not done with you. I'm certain of it. Don't be scared. But, keep reading about this sickness, and be ready if he comes your way again. Okay?
Me: Okay. Thank you...I know you mean well.
Then, we just stopped texting. I just wanted to share this with you all. I have been strong this morning. But, it bothers me that he didn't take those pics down. Bothers me that I still am a little weepy.
I will stay NC. No worries, everyone.
~God, please help me to stay strong, and to be strong for You, and in You.~
Thanks for reading, all. I know she's right.
Suddenly, I am crying here. She also told me about a wonderful guy who is pursuing her. He's normal...christian...taking it slow. Why do I seem to attract abnormal, unhealthy, narcs who just hurt me? (I know why, just sayin) This sucks. I'm happy for my friend, I am...but, sad that I am afraid of never finding normal love. :=(
THANK YOU!
Diedre
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good morning D! It's sounds
diedre
I am so down today...I can't
It's awful when you're dreams
Diedre
diedree40
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This is interesting about the friend
deidre40
She is thinking of getting
SHE IS THINKING???
I couldn't agree more too
I couldn't agree more
Sounds like your friend
I agree with smitten
thank you for your note
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michelle
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michelle
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I HATE FACEBOOK!!!!!!!!! OMG,
Diedre...
I know what you mean about
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