"Sick" Victims
"Sick" Victims
I have a question for all you ladies in Narc-Recovery land...
How many of you, when you first started your recovery, or perhaps still find or have found yourselves feeling:
That you wish your exN would still seek you out?
That the fact he has moved onto another woman, causes you jealousy that he has chosen to use her or finds her as a source of supply now, that is better than you?
Though it is sick, it validated your worth that he still sought or seeks you out as a source of supply?
When he hasn't or no longer does seek you as supply, you are depressed or disappointed, wondering what he sees in the OW, that he doesn't see in you?
Do any of you think that Narcs have a sense of which source is more convenient for them and "less work" to secure?
Do you ever find yourself comparing the situations between you and the OW, and think, "Hey, I provided him with this and this and that. I was better in this way or that than the other woman, yet he is still staying with her?" This situation could also be that the OW has given the same ultimatums and taken the same measures as you, yet the Narc works harder at securing them as sources...making you feel worth less to them?
Do you think that the Narcs have a "scale" of worth to them that they compare their sources of supply to and even prioritize which is more important to them?
These are some thoughts I came up with as I was reflecting on my recovery...some feelings I used to struggle with early on and thought they may make a good discussion; wondering if any other victims felt this way?
who knows and who in the hell cares
justicejones... on "sick" victims
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JJ
I think some of the pull
I have to disagree with
Sick of it...
Just visualize "THE BLOB"
LOML
soi
Call anytime sweets! Dont
omg. It is crazy the
Ns not liking work....
I wanted to add to this that
Sick of it
"In the fiery pit lays a man with two faces.One is the face of a God and the other a face of the Devil.Beware He lurks your souls.Keep one hand on your heart and the other hand over your eyes. Let him walk pass you not into you.Ghost of love will possess
No! as in Narcville
I believe this to be true.
Deep down I am hoping that SOI
I do not want the peace which passeth understanding, I want the understanding which bringeth peace.
--Helen Keller
Sick of it...
Yes, I have gone through this
My Narc hasn't been hoovering
It took a very, very long
MandyM
Why It Bothered Me
I felt tIn same way
A Step Up or So It Seems!
I think they think they are Kings
I do not want the peace which passeth understanding, I want the understanding which bringeth peace.
--Helen Keller
Justicejones
"In the fiery pit lays a man with two faces.One is the face of a God and the other a face of the Devil.Beware He lurks your souls.Keep one hand on your heart and the other hand over your eyes. Let him walk pass you not into you.Ghost of love will possess
JusticeJones
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