You were just too healthy for him

We don't call Narcs predators for nothing. They act just like them. I like to watch the National Geographic channel, and though I hate to see the big cats kill and eat the poor antelopes I have learned a great deal about US that I have to share.

Predators, in the wild, are essentially lazy. Big cats (lions, leopards, tigers) sit on their asses most of the day, or creep along side a herd of buffalo or impala. They are targeting the weak and the sick. They might charge the whole herd but do not go after the biggest buck. They ignore that one. They go after the animal that APPEARS to be the least amount of work to subdue and kill.

It's the same for Narcs and psychopaths, our human predators.

We survivors and victims are a lot like a nice herd of water buffalo. Mild and gentle natured, sensitive to the needs of the herd. Slow to startle, perhaps, and as long as the wind is blowing in the right direction, oblivious to danger because we don't THINK like a predator.

When a lion begins the hunt, it begins to chase the entire herd, so that it can target the animals the move slowly, the ones still dreamily chewing their cud, the babies or older animals that don't immediately scatter.

I've watched a pride of lions try and take down a big ole water buffalo. Six or seven lions handing off of this massive beast, and if it doesn't come down fast enough, they abandon it and go after a LESS obstinate creature.

The water buffalo in question is tore up, bleeding and exhausted, but it will live to see another day.

That is one helluva a grateful water buffalo.

When you understand the core essence of the narcissistic or psychopathic personality, being dumped by one can only mean one thing.

You fought too hard to stay alive, to stay yourself. You resisted too much. You were too much goddamn WORK.

The Narc's core essence, their self-felt reason for being, is to achieve and maintain control over you (and everything elsea). This is absolutely CRITICAL to understand. Everything the Narc does, and I mean EVERYTHING, is engineered to either take or keep control. From those beautiful early days of bliss to the end times, they are doing nothing but attempting to keep control of you. Manipulating you with positive or negative feedback. This is all they know how to do in human relationships. It's their critical weakness.

So when you get D&D'd, it's natural to feel utterly rejected. The narc makes sure you get the message that you are worthless.

Not so.

You were too hard to bring down. You were too strong, your character too sound for the Narc to take you apart and achieve his goal of absolute control. No matter WHAT the Narc did, whatever humiliation, whatever display of "love", whatever piteous manipulation of your tender heart . . . you just would not fall down and give him your neck.

So he dumps you.

Not because you are worthless.

But because you were too goddamn strong.

And he's off to easier, slower prey.